Quote Originally Posted by ksst View Post
Those are good insights. Personally, I am not looking for anyone, but am interested in the whole topic of what makes a dominant. My master has an account here now, although with the log out problem it's a huge issue for us both to get on the site- involving switching cables to a lap top and it's generally too much trouble so he doesn't post. But his profile (Vetinari) describes him as a reluctant Master. I am totally happy with our sessions and play, but wish he felt more natural in the role. Honestly he plays so well I can't tell he's unsure, but he says he is.
That too, comes with time and experience. His current "reluctance" likely stems from societal conditioning. (Mine did.) The fact that he is trying, tries to (and apparently does) please you and doesn't reject it out of hand, implies he has the apptitude to enjoy it himself... and perhaps the discovery that he is enjoying it is part of that current unsurity.