Focusing help

[Curtis]

Mobius, if you check the previous posts you will find that almost none of these suggestions takes up much time. What FF sounds like she is looking for is a way to be BOTH husband and wife, and slave and master. That's not unreasonable. And children, even at seven months, don't take up every hour in the day. She complained about being stretched thin, but wasn't asking for ways to be stretched thinner.

You're right that everyone has to prioritize. If I'm reading this right, FF thinks that FOR HER being a sub is an important part of being a wife. She's lost that part as her family has grown and is asking for time-economical ways to get it (or a part of it) back.

It's unlikely that she's thinking about how to be a better submissive while the baby is screaming or sick. Yes, I saw the part where you said you didn't mean that the child wasn't in a caring and healthy environment.

Happy Thanksgiving, Mobius. Everybody.

[BDSM_Tourguide]

Does anyone have any more comments for this thread?

[slavelucy]

Does anyone have any more comments for this thread?

Yes, i do.

Having encountered this particular problem from time to time, i have come to the conclusion that the antithesis of 'focusing' on submission helps sort out the wheat from the chaff in terms of my feelings towards submission and my ability to focus on it. By antithesis, i mean thinking about life without submission, life without giving up any degree of personal power, life without Ds....imagining the opposite is far more effective, at times, than forcing one's mind to focus ON it.

Just an idea, anyway.

sl

[Chuckdom19]

Yes, i do.

Having encountered this particular problem from time to time, i have come to the conclusion that the antithesis of 'focusing' on submission helps sort out the wheat from the chaff in terms of my feelings towards submission and my ability to focus on it. By antithesis, i mean thinking about life without submission, life without giving up any degree of personal power, life without Ds....imagining the opposite is far more effective, at times, than forcing one's mind to focus ON it.

Just an idea, anyway.

sl

This thought may be a tool that could be used to train a new sub. Or at least a sub could use this to determine their sincerity in submission. A succinct thought. Thank you!

[Dngnkeeper]

To echo on a couple of thoughts above. I have on my key chain a little slapper thingy given to me by a sub many years ago. While the rest of the world wouldn't give it a second thought it still reminds me both of her and gets me to pause and think about BDSM and relationship.

A great stress relief for me at the end of a long day or on the way to one is to think on BDSM. Weather its something we have done or want to do physically or just the enjoyment of submission given. It is particularly useful in keeping the blood pressure down when stuck in traffic. I for one much prefer walking in the door with good thoughts and in a playful mood then gggggrrrrring about the traffic. edhorse:

FF this topic has beef quiet for a while. It would be interesting to hear if you found something here that helped.

[Finding_Fantasy]

I cannot honestly say that things have changed much in the way of my being able to fully submitt. I think once we get a few things sorted out in our 'normal' lives, things will change. Right now I am always concerned about Tg getting deported, the diconnection notices sitting on the kitchen table, the unpaid rent and wether we are raising our daughter right.

Once a few of those big stresses have been removed, I think that it will be able to focus better.