Ah yes, Badwolfe,I am afraid you are seeing that paradox of many lifestyle relationships,whereby the Sub is actually dominating things from the bottom.In this instance we have her in control of information by telling her husband a lie.Plus it is a bit of a control element for her,that she approached you with starting this relationship with her to begin with.Better watch your step,as this one sounds like an accomplished manipulator,one who likes nothing more than playing both ends against the middle,as we appear to see,based on the info you have shared here.