I'm glad you're happy, but honestly whether she was actually a man wasn't the thing I was concerned about. The fact that she's telling you things like "you can't walk away" and that she "owns you and all of your things completely" and that you must obey some random guy as you would obey her...that is very sketchy. The fact that she's giving you no real contact info is really sketchy. It's really not that encouraging that you got chewed out for asking the question.

If you're stopping things then ignore this post, but it sounds from your post like you are carrying forward, content that she's not a dude, but without having addressed any of the other troubling issues. You're a grownup and of course you can do whatever you want, but my advice would still be to slow down, set some ground rules, and make sure she respects your boundaries. I really, honestly believe that carrying on under the previous terms of the relationship is playing with fire.