It is such an uncertain time when you meet someone o/l for the first time. And you are so taken in with everything they say and do. I remember how i really wanted him to be someone i could trust but certain things kept bothering me.(Especially about his unwillingness to share about himself) Until i spoke to him, then everything was ok again. And then i would start wondering all over again.

A friend said to me i should be smart in my kink and i want to give you that advice too.
There is a great thread that addresses a few of the questions you asked originally. (Personally i found i justified alot of the things mentioned but since breaking contact i can see the warning signs so clearly )
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/sh...-the-lifestyle

This is only my experience. I wish you clarity of heart and mind as you move forward and as you make these decisions- whatever the decisions may be.
(Turns out he wasn't a dom worthy of being written with a capitol D after all! )
*hugs*
Vicki