I totally agree with you. We live in a conservative small town and can't really be letting everyone know what we're into, but really, it's not their business just like it's not my business what they like in the bedroom. I don't think going to another town would be unreasonable. I thought about doing that myself, but it was just too hard to get away and I ended up going to a local munch. There really was no chance of any non-involved friends and acquaintances dropping by and finding out anything, though. It's not like we'll be doing things in public. Although I had a dream last night about being escorted out of Menards (like a Home Depot) by security and banned for life .