Hi

anyone who has seen me in the last week, knows i am extremely new here, so my opinion is not very educated or anything, but here it is anyway!

as far as i can tell and from very limited experience you are by no means unusual, there seem to be many people who dont see the sub role as 'fighting back' or needing to be 'broken in spirit' (some do and thats cool, but many seem to want to be the submissive partner through and through). i would guess that it has just been bad luck that the Doms you have met have recently experienced different kinds of submission and are just not expecting you to be how you are. it sounds as naff a thing to say in cyber space as in real life (but i think its still true!) you just have to meet the RIGHT person and then it will all fall into place. keep looking...x

Rosemary