What is so appealing about 'bratty subs'? Is it so bad not to be one?

[denuseri]

Leo, denuseri is saying (please correct me if I am wrong denuseri) that whether a sub's brattiness is desired by the Dom or not, it's pretty predictable and eminently manageable if you recognize and look for the completely natural patterns of dominance hierarchies, and not recognizing and reacting appropriately is a failing of the Dom not the sub.

Likewise, topping from the bottom isn't really a failure of a sub. It's natural hierarchy testing behavior, and a Dom can either react to reinforce the hierarchy or not, as he decides. It's silly to choose to allow the hierarchy to become confused, to be unhappy with the result, and then complain about the sub. He's whining about biology and his own shortcomings, but putting them on someone else.

I think most subs in most consensual relationships _want_ a clear hierarchy and will be happier when it and it's maintained. If there isn't one it's her dominant's fault, not hers.

lol correct you Sir? You said it far better than I!

[this.is.me]

Have not been on the forum in a while, this topic kinda took off lol. It was really interesting reading everyone's opinions and explanations. Someone mentioned it being more common in the younger crowd and I am in that group so that might be a big factor on why I feel a little like the odd one out. Hanging around a slightly older crowd I don't get nearly the same worry. I am getting a lot more comfortable with who I am as a submissive, and exactly what I am looking for in a Dominant. I have also found that the right person can get one hell of a response out of me lol. This was as super encouraging to read and it was nice to see it from the angle of bratty not necessarily being bad, just not my thing.

I think it is going to take me a while to find that right Dom for me, but I am just going to have some fun along the way and not change who I am.

[thir]

I think it is going to take me a while to find that right Dom for me, but I am just going to have some fun along the way and not change who I am.

Good for you! Best of luck

[Rwkeith]

The way I see it, there is no point of having Dom/Sub roles if you never cross the boundries of a Dom/Sub. The roles are there for guidance, it's up to you on how you want to play out your role.

[xXsubpuppyXx]

Like rosemaryj i'm very new here so my respons my not be as well educated or valid as most of the other posts, I would not call myself bratty nor do I think i would go out of my way to annoy the dom, I think i would try to listen to what -in my case- He said, however that doesen't mean i would never talk back or question him, in m ordinary life i am quite dominant and controlling, so I think that would be something hard to change in a sexuall enviorment if I'm feeling nervous or uncomfortable. this does not mean i think I would be cocky, but more questioning- although seeing as I have never been in any real life bdsm situations I wouldn't know exactly how I'd act.