I have trouble reaching orgasm at all, so, so far, coming on command is not happening. My current love has had a higher success rate than any of his predecessors, but, as we are together longer and the honeymoon period ends, making me orgasms takes more work from both of us, and still doesn't always work. I would love to come on command for him, though, not just for the orgasm itself, but because it pleases him so.
I have some ideas for us to try when we are next together, to get the ball rolling again, but I would love to hear ideas from other women who have trouble reaching orgasm, or had trouble and have found solutions. I know that it always gets more difficult for me the longer I am with the same partner, but I am really inspired to find a solution/solutions--as his sub, his vanilla lover, and hopefully, as his top, too. He says that, as a sub, he longs to serve (kind of vague, but I am trying to pin him down more,) and I would love to be able to reward his service with my orgasm, which sometimes, even often, seems more important to him than his own. (And no, ladies, I really don't want to share him. Sorry.)