Hi, I'm lilpenguin, a nickname I picked up somewhere, closely related to my love of cute penguins
I am a submissive and always have been, however never properly trained, most of what I know is instinct, and have been in two slightly dominant relationships, the first ending when he started to drink too much and got violent, the second being my marriage which is now over, and he became abusive. I have a feeling that my choice in partners has gotten me into trouble due to not really knowing enough about the Dom side to see what is truly Dom, and thus appropriate, safe and fullfilling for a sub, and what is a Dom who is more the monster and powerseeking abuser.

I am a natural as I said, most of what I know is instinct and confuses people because it seems like I know a lot... but I am painfully and horribly innocent in knowing the ins and outs... and am hoping to learn some things here, explore my limits and learn how to offer myself wisely.