that is really good advice Austerus, and you absolutely right.

XxHarlernxX... welcome to the libary hope you have lots of fun here. this is a wonderful place to meet and learn from others. but i want to emphasise a point that Austerus brought up...slowdown...in BDSM the very first rule i think that should be taught is the credo: SAFE SANE CONSENSUAL ...witch does say it all right?

as a woman online you have a responsibility to the ones that love you to be safe about your kink....my advice would be...if You new rather hook up with a mentor rather than a owner... learn what you can before making the leap ....and have hot steamy kinky fun alll the way!