I need conversation please.

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I have been in a vanilla relationship for the past 4 years, and hated it. Not because it was vanilla alone, but because the guy i was dating was more submissive in a vanilla way than I ever seen. I felt like I was the one with the reigns.

I just want conversation and understanding from Doms and subs alike. I want to learn myself once again as I was in fact an owned slave for a year. I miss it so much it keeps getting in the way of any relationship I have ever been in which made me realize I can't be in a true vanilla relationship as I am just not happy enough. I know know that I have to stay true to myself and be the sub I know I am.

I would greatly enjoy to speaking with like minded individuals, ones that can guide and ones that can I can share my feelings with.
I am looking forward to this journey ahead of me here on BDSM Library.

Hello :-)
I am glad that you and others find what they need, but sorry that it often seems to take such a long time..and I wonder why?

Is BDSM not known enough? Do people think they are the only ones? Or is it the old dilemma of 'everything else fits'??

A question out of curiosity: how can you be submissive in a vanilla way?? IS it possible that he simply was a sub, and wanted you to take over?