I would be happy to serve as an example, and discuss my experiences. I only "discovered" the world of kinkiness about 6 months ago, although I'd always had odd kinky fantasies that I was afraid to admit to. My husband/Master, well, he'll still tell anyone he is of a vanilla inclination, although his definition of vanilla may be what I'd call more of a chocolately fudge swirl. mmm, fudge. Sorry, I'm getting lost in an ice cream tangent.

What I mean, is that he's very open minded about sex and has always pushed me into trying new things and doing things for him. What he means, I think, is that he doesn't need to cause pain to get off.
Like most guys, he'd been brought up never to hurt a woman, always to ask before doing anything untoward etc. We both eased in kind of slowly because I didn't know what I wanted and he was, not really hesitant, but more cautious.

Your best bet is to start with something easy for him to do, maybe blindfold you with a scarf, or tie your wrist with something soft. Make sure he can tell how much better you like it that way, with actions and actually telling him. It's worth a try anyway. If you are patient and give him the power he might surprise you.