Love

[IAN 2411]

What is love? How does it show itself?
I think love shows itself in many ways. When I first went with my late wife I don’t think love was there at all. Infatuation possibly, a mutual need for each other’s company and a relationship builds into love. I think it is just a conclusion from the latter. I do not believe in soul mates or real love at first sight, it might be there but it seldom works out.

How does it change a person?
Love does not change a person. Love is only a sense, an essence if you like that is woken up, a new cell in the brain.

How does it change your perception and your ideas of another person?
It doesn’t and why should it? Life is still the same a nothing as changed.

What about love for other than persons? Pets? Countries? Books?
Pets, I look after my pets, I would be upset if my dog died but she is old and stays outside in her kennel and run. I would be more upset if my cat died because she is young and very good company in the house.

I don’t get married to books, but I read them, pass them on and read another. I do love the stories and being able to use my imagination to the full.

Countries I have been all around the world with the UKSF and not all countries were we fighting. I think I always loved coming home to the UK as the grass is not always greener.

Is all love monogamous?
For me it is/was, I will never find or love another like my late wife. I don’t see that a man that had six wives could love all of them, why have the other five? Greed possibly, he could also be a masochist I suppose...LOL

Can you love only one? (at a time, or in your life)
Let’s get things right, caring, cherishing and friendship and in some cases loyalty are not loving, well not in my outlook of life.

If you fall in love with someone, must you fall out of love with others?
If you want that love to bloom and prosper into a secure relationship, then you have no choice. That does not mean you cannot be friends with them.

Does love and jealousy follow each other, or are they separate
Jealousy has nothing to do with love; it has everything to do with possession. It is a self inflicting wound and the more jealous you become the harder it hurts. I have seen it in people and it is something I have never been party too, I am happy with what I have of my own.

Can you love without jealousy?
A situation while being in love can make a person jealous for a moment in time, but again is that jealousy or looking after what you think you posses?

Can you be jealous without love?
In a million ways, for instance, the next door neighbours car is brand new and the one you really like.

Is crime passionel a sign of love, or of love dead?
Mindless stupidity.

What causes crime passionel?
In most cases it could be a possessive and jealous person; cheating, verbal assault, drink, or a combination of any.

Does society support the idea, and, if so, why?
I don’t think so but some UK liberal judges do.

Or did it, and is now changing attitude? If so, is that ok? Do you think it is understandable/ok to kill the loved one? Or to kill for love in other situations?
To all three, its murder however you look at it, but mitigating circumstances should have a say to the punishment. I believe that in the UK it is dealt with on a case by case situation.

D/s and love, Can you have a D/s relationship if there is also love?
Yes and because of some of the situations that the Dominant puts the submissive in, there needs to be cart loads of it along with loyalty and trust.

Can you have a D/s relationship without love?
I know that I could not, it would be to cold blooded.

Obviously I have plenty of ideas and even more questions, but thought I'd start with just the questions.
Don’t you sleep? Lol.


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