Quote Originally Posted by thir View Post
I have had a love who got too sick to have a sex life, I did not stop loving him for that.
But you were still sexually attracted to him, or at least, to the man he had been when he was healthy, right? Sexual attraction doesn't have to be consumated to be part of love: plenty of people feel intense desire for online loves they've never held hands with.
Personally, I usually fall for someone as I get to know her, but I can remember in school falling for a girl who'd been around for years, but who suddenly was for no logical reason enormously important to me. (In a different way from the ones who were newly important to me because I'd discovered sex, and they were it. She wasn't particularly sexy, she was just the one whose name had been on the arrow that hit me. The others I wanted to fuck, rape, whatever pervy things I was learning to imagine: her, I just wanted to hold hands with and gaze into her eyes and tell her what a wonderful person she was.)
Love as temporary insanity. It really is!
Not necessarily temporary. If she'd in any way returned my feelings, I can readily imagine a timeline where we became a deeply loving couple and even married. Good thing it never happened, because I'd guess she was pure vanilla, and I was too confused about my sexuality at that age to understand that I could only be lastingly happy with someone whose kinks matched mine; but that's another thread.