As my name clearly states I am a novice and just getting into the BDSM world. This is something my wife is intrested in, she wants to be the sub. while i am the Dom. I want to make her happy. So I answered these question as if these would be things I would ask her to do as the sub. I hope that was the proper way to do this, and I rated this things by how much I would like to do them with her. I am going to ask her to take the questionair and she how we compare, but any advice from those more experniced then us would be greatly appreciated.


Abrasion: No, No
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 5 this is a must, but done correctly for enjoyment for both
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large):no, 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 5
Animal roles:No, No
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):No, 0
Asphyxiation:No, No
Auctioned for charity:No, 0
Bathroom use control:No, No
Bestiality:No, No
Beating (soft):No, 0
Beating (hard):No, 0
Blindfolds:yes 5
Being serviced (sexual):yes 5
Being bitten:no, 1
Breast/chest bondage:no, 1
Breath control:No, No
Branding:NO NO
Boot worship:No, 0
Bondage (light):Yes, 5
Bondage (heavy):no, 3
Bondage (multi-day):No, 2
Bondage (public, under clothing):no, 3
Breast whipping:no, 3
Brown showers (scat):No, No
Cages (locked inside of):No, 1
Caning:No, 1
Catheterization:No, No
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):No, 1
Chastity belts:No, 1
Chauffeuring:No, 2
Choking:No, No
Clothespins:No, 0
Cock worship:No, 3
Collars (worn in private):No, 2
Collars (worn in public):No, 2
Competitions (with other Subs): No 2
Corsets (wearing):No, 3
Cuffs:Yes 3
Cuffs (metal):Yes 3
Cutting:No, No
Dilation:No, No
Double penetration:Yes, 2
Electricity:No, No
Enemas:No, 0
Enforced chastity:No, 0
Examinations (physical):No, 0
Exercise (forced/required):No, No
Exhibitionism (friends):No, 1
Exhibitionism (strangers):No 1
Eye contact restrictions:No, 0
Face slapping:No, No
Fantasy abandonment:No 1
Fantasy rape:No, 1
Fantasy gang-rape:No, 1
Fisting (anal):No, 0
Fisting (vaginal):No, 0
Following orders:Yes, 5
Foot worship:No, 0
Forced dressing:No, 1
Forced homosexuality:No, 0
Forced masturbation:No, 1
Forced nudity (private): No, 1
Forced nudity (around others):No, 2
Forced servitude:No, 3
Full head hoods:No, 0
Gags (cloth):Yes, 4
Gags (rubber):Yes, 4
Gags (tape):No, 2
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex:YES YES 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No, 2
Given away to another Dom (perm):N/A
Golden showers:No No
Hairbrush spankings:No, 4
Hair pulling:Yes 5
Hand jobs (giving):N/A
Hand jobs (receiving):Yes, 5
Harems (serving w/other subs):N/A
Harnessing (leather):No, 3
Harnessing (rope):No, 2
Having food chosen for you:No, 3
Having clothing chosen for you:N/A
Head (giving fellatio):N/A
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only Yes, 5
High heel worship:No,0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):No, No
Hot oils (on genitals):No, No
Hot waxing:No, No
Housework (doing):No, 3
Human puppy dog:No, No
Humiliation (private):No, 3
Humiliation (public):No, 3
Hypnotism:No, 3
Ice cubes:Yes, 4
Infantilism:No, No
Initiation rites:No, 3
Injections:No, No
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:No, 2
Interrogations:No, 1
Kidnapping:No, 3
Kneeling:No, 3
Leather clothing:No, 4
restraints:No, 4
Lectures for misbehavior:No, 3
Licking (non-sexual):No, 2
Manacles & Irons:No, 3
Manicures (giving):No, 0
Massage (giving):Yes, 3
Massage (receiving):Yes, 5
Medical scenes:No, 3
Modeling for erotic photos:No, 3
Mouth bits:No, 3
Mummification:No, No
Nipple clamps:Yes 5
Nipple weights:No, 3
Oral/anal play (rimming):Yes, 5
Over-the-knee spanking:No, 5
Orgasm denial:Yes, 5
Orgasm control:Yes, 5
Outdoor scenes:No, 4
Outdoor sex:No, 4
Phone sex (serving Dom):Yes, 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):No, 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):No, 2
Piercing (permanent):No, 0
Prison scenes NO 1
Pony slave:No, No
Public exposure:No, 2
Pussy/cock whipping:No, 2
Pussy worship:No, 4
Riding crops:yes, 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):No, No
Rituals:No, 2
Religious scenes:No, 2
Restrictive rules on behavior:No, 2
Rubber/latex clothing:No, 3
Rope body harness:No, 3
Saran wrapping:No, 3
Scratching – getting:No, No
Scratching – giving:No, 0
Sensory deprivation:No, 3
Serving:No, 5
Serving as art:No, 3
Serving as ashtray:No, No
Serving as furniture:No, 3
Serving as a maid:No, 5
Serving as toilet:No, No
Serving as waitress/waiter:No, 4
Serving orally (sexual):Yes, 5
Serving other Doms (supervised):No, 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):No, 0
Sexual deprivation (short term):No, 0
Sexual deprivation (long term):No, 0
Shaving (body hair):No, No
Shaving (head hair):No, No
Sleep deprivation:No, No
Sleepsacks:No No
Slutty clothing (private):Yes, 5
Slutty clothing (public):Yes, 5
Spanking:Yes, 5
Spandex clothing:No, 3
Speech restrictions (when, what):No, 3
Speculums (Anal):No, No
Speculums (vaginal):No No
Spreader bars:No, 3
Standing in corner:No 3
Stocks (adjustable):No, 3
Straight jackets:No, 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):N/A
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):No, 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):N/A
Strapping (full body beating):No, 0
Suspension (upright);No, 0
Suspension (inverted):No, 0
Suspension (horizontal):No, 0
Supplying new partners for Dom:No, 0
Swallowing semen:N/A
Swallowing urine:no, No
Swapping (with one other couple):No, 3
Swinging (multiple couples):No, 3
Tattooing:No, 0
Teasing:Yes, 5
Tickling:Yes, 3
Triple penetration:No, 3
Uniforms:No, 3
Including others:No, 3
Vaginal dildo:No, 3
Verbal humiliation:yes, 5
Vibrator on genitals:Yes, 5
Voyeurism (watching others):No, 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):N/A
Video (watching others):Yes, 5
Video (recordings of you):No, 3
Water torture:No, No
Wearing symbolic jewelry:No, 5
Whipping No 4
Wooden paddles:No, 4
Wrestling: No, 0