Perhaps I have misunderstood here. Do you wish to curb your quest for answers? Also, how long have you known your Dominant?
For me personally, this journey is about discovering, uncovering, learning and then accepting all the various parts of myself. I am submissive, yes. But I am also in this for me. A year or two ago, I'd have called myself selfish for that. Today, I see that I've grown.
You may PM me, if you'd like to ask or discuss anything more personal. I will try to help you, in any manner that I am able.