For myself, it is the loss of control that attracts me. To have my submission forcibly taken from me and having no control over stopping it is one of my biggest kinks, so rape play goes right along with that. I can fight back and resist to my heart's content without having to worry about stepping on toes or being a "good girl."

However, that being said... I would NEVER set up a rape scenario with a stranger. My ex-bf wanted to do a "surprise" rape scene where he'd wear a mask and attack me when I didn't know it was him and I told him if he ever did that I would charge him with rape. I am attracted to the romanticized version of rape (if you could put romanticized and rape in the same sentence...) where, even though I'm being "raped," it is still pleasurable for me and within my boundaries. I am not, however, attracted to the emotional trauma that has scarred so many people. I know I would be very badly affected if I were ever raped in real life, even if it was revealed to me afterwards that it was my bf/Dom/whoever I was comfortable with. Because even when I want to lack control, I still want the control of knowing who I'm placing my trust in and that they would never really hurt me and that they genuinely cared about me.

When it comes down to it, the majority of people who fantasize about rape don't really want to be raped. They want to /pretend/ to be raped. Real rape is a horrible, tragic thing and no one should ever have to go through it. : (

And that's my two cents on the subject.