I totally agree. There is a world of difference between fantasising about rape and actual rape, they are polar opposites. Real rape is not sexual for the victim in any way shape or form, it comes from a place of anger and hate and violence and is tragic and can be soul destroying. I think the difference boils down to consent. The act of rape is based in hate, fantasies and role playing come from a place which if not based in love should at least be based around mutual consent and understanding. When women Fantasise about rape, while they may not be in control of the situation in their fantasies, they have ultimate control of when the fantasy starts and ends and that is an important distinction.