I sometimes think we have this idea that submitting to someone only means: 'in all the fun, and sometimes not so fun sexual stuff'.
But i am reminded time and again that it is in the non-sexual times that submition is the most challenging. For me anyway.

I am currently having to deal with almost zero communication- even vanilla- due to our lives. This after having had constant and very open communication for the whole of our relationship.
I am realising again that my submission is not (only) tested when i submit sexually. It is (especially) tested when there is no reward.... Simply putting His needs above mine.

i find that my internal dialogue helps/hinders me the most. So, i go and kneel in the slave positions, those times when rebellion wants to overtake. I submit daily, again and again in my mind.... And it calms my actions. He knows nothing of this. It is me taking responsibility for my own attitude.