Thank you all for the comments, suggestions and ideas. They have been hugely helpful. A lot of it in the end just has to deal with both of our mindsets. It is amazing how just reading some of your posts have helped to adjust my own and think about it in a different light. I agree 100% about the additional aspect of the lifestyle on a relationship. I've buckled down even more especially now that finals are over on recognizing and rewarding the good behavior and addressing the negative. We have only had 1 or 2 little things pop up but a stern look and a threat she wont get the kind of spanking she likes has fixed the attitude as soon as it starts.