So I don't expect anyone to try and read this, but if anyone wants to I revised the rating system. This makes it nigh impossible to read, but more accurate. You win some you lose some.

I have deleted repeats of things when one mention of the concept will do (e.g. I've never done electrical play so Violet Wand and TENS are superfluous categories. I'm not aroused by the idea of feces, so we don't need the soiling diapers category) or categories that do not apply to me. (I don't have any nor am I a dominant so ball stretching and I don't have anything to do with each other.)

Things with an X alone mean I have no idea what this is or what I think about it. (N X E) Is what I'd call a hard limit. I don't have any attraction to the idea what so ever. But I'd like to think any hard limits could be over come with some careful work and planning.

There's four spectrums: 1) How willing I am to do the thing. 2) How much it turns me on to think about it. 3) Whether it's a mildly negative or extremely negative sounding sensation. 4) How much guidance I would need to pull it off.

Y = I've done this
W = I've never done this but I'm interested in trying it (No convincing needed.)
U = Um, I've not tried it and I'm not sure if I'm willing (Need serious convincing.)
N = I've never done this and I don't plan on it (Hate the idea.)

X = I have never thought about it or I don't understand the appeal (If X is alone than I don't know what it is at all.)
F = I fantasize about this frequently
f = I fantasize about this sometimes
Z = I fantasize about this in sub-frenzy only

p = I consider this a mild punishment, bordering on pleasure (mild discipline, embarrassment or training)
P = I consider this a serious punishment, having no pleasure (painful or seriously humiliating)

C = Needs dominant and submissive context. (Even if I'm just pushing myself around.)
S = With a sadist and/or a sympathetic guide (Needs consistent motivation and supervision.)
E = I consider this edge play (Very unlikely to happen without a lot of attention and planning.)


Abrasion***Y f C
Age play***W F S*******
Anal sex****Y*F P S ************
Anal plugs (small)**Y p C
Anal plugs (large)***N P S
Anal plug (public, under clothes) Y p C
Animal roles**W Z p S
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) Y f p C
Aromas**X
Asphyxiation*W Z P E *****************
Auctioned for charity**N f P E**********************
Bathroom use control***U Z P E**
Beastiality**N Z E
Beating (soft)*W f P S************
Beating (hard)**N Z P E
Blindfolds**Y R p C*
Being serviced (sexual)*Y p C**
Being bitten**Y f p C
Breast/chest bondage Y F C
Breath control*W Z P E
Branding**N Z
Boot worship*W*X*************
Bondage (light)*Y F
Bondage (heavy)*Y F C*******
Bondage (multi-day)*Y F p S
Bondage (public, under clothing) Y f p
Breast whipping**W f P S
Brown showers (scat)**N X E*******
Cages (locked inside of)*W F p S
Caning**U Z P E
Castration fantasy X***********
Catheterization*U X S
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)*W F P S
Chains*W f C
Chamber-pot use U Z P S******************
Chastity belts*W f p S***********
Chauffeuring**U X C******
Choking**W P E******
Chores (domestic service)**W f S
Clothespins*Y p C************
Cock worship**W f p S***********
Collars (worn in private)*W F S******
Collars (worn in public)**U F S
Competitions (with other Subs) N X P**
Corsets (wearing casually)*Y f
Corsets (trained waist reduction) N Z E
Cuffs (leather)*W f C
Cuffs (metal)*W f C**************
Cutting*N X E*****
Diapers (wearing)*N X P S*************
Dilation*N X P E
Dildos**Y F C***************
Double penetration*(oral vaginal) Y F
Double penetration (oral or vaginal + anal) W F P S
Electricity**U X S
Enemas (for cleansing)*W X *
Enemas (retention/punishment) U X P S*
Enforced chastity*W F S
Erotic dance (for audience) U X S*****
Examinations (physical)*W X C
Exercise (forced/required)*W f S
Exhibitionism (friends)*U Z P S
Exhibitionism (strangers)*U Z P E
Eye contact restrictions*W F P S
Face slapping*W F P S
Fantasy abandonment*U X P E*********
Fantasy rape*W F P E
Fantasy gang-rape*N Z P E******
Fear (being scared)*U F P E
Fisting (anal)*N X P E
Fisting (vaginal)*N Z*P E
Flame play*U X S
Following orders*W F S************
Foot worship*U X S*************
Forced bedwetting*N X E ************
Forced dressing W F p S
Forced eating**U X p S
Forced homosexuality*N f P E (Since I'm bi the implication is being used as a tool to force another submissve.)****
Forced heterosexuality*N X P E*
Forced masturbation*U X p S**
Forced nudity (private)*W Z p S
Forced nudity (around others)*U Z P S*
Forced servitude*W F S
Forced smoking*N X P S****
Full head hoods*W Z p S
Gags (cloth)*Y F p C****************
Gags (inflatable)*W X p S**************
Gags (phallic)*W F p S**
Gags (rubber)**Y f p C**********
Gags (tape)*W f P S**
Gas masks**U X S*******
Genital sex**Y*
Given away to another Dom (temp)*W Z p S
Given away to another Dom (perm) N Z P E
Golden showers*U X P S
Gun play*Y Z P E
Hairbrush spankings*Y Z P S
Hair pulling*Y F p C
Hand jobs (giving)**Y f **********
Hand jobs (receiving)*Yp C***
Harems (serving w/other subs) U X S***
Harnessing (leather)*U X C
Harnessing (rope)*U X C
Having food chosen for you*W f p S*****
Having clothing chosen for you*W f p S
Head (give fellatio/cunnilingus)*Y F
Head (rcv fellatio/cunnilingus)**Y f C
High heel wearing*Y F p
High heel worship*W X p S
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)*U X p S
Hoods*W X C
Hot oils (on genitals) W X p C**********
Hot waxing**Y f P S
Housework (doing)*W F S***********
Human puppy dog**W f P S
Humiliation (private)*W F p S
Humiliation (public)**W f P S
Hypnotism**U X S
Ice cubes*W X ***
Immobilization*W F p S*************
Infantilism*U X E
Initiation rites*U X S*****
Injections*U X P E
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage W F S
Interrogations*W X P S
Kidnapping*W F P E**
Kneeling*W F S**
Knife play*U Z P E***********
Leather clothing*W X C**********
Leather restraints*W f C
Lectures for misbehavior*W F S*
Licking (non-sexual)*U Z p S
Lingerie (wearing)*Y X p
Manacles & Irons*W X p S
Manicures (giving)*N X p S
Massage (giving)*Y
Massage (receiving)*Y *******
Medical scenes**W X S********
Modeling for erotic photos*U f P S****
Mouth bits*W f p C
Mummification*U X S*************
Name change (for scene)*W F p S******
Name change (legal, permanent)**U X E**
Nipple clamps**Y f p C
Nipple rings (piercings)*W F p E******
Nipple play/"torture" W F P E
Nipple weights*U X P E
Oral/anal play (rimming) W X p C******
Over-the-knee spanking**W f P C
Orgasm denial*W F S
Orgasm control*W F S
Outdoor scenes*W X ****
Outdoor sex*W X *****
Pain (severe)*W Z P E*******
Pain (mild)**W F p S****
Persona training (in scene)*W f P S****
Personality modification (RL)*U F P E
Phone sex (serving Dom)*U X p C
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends) U X P S
Phone sex (commercial provider)*N X P E
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) W F
Piercing (permanent)*U F p S
Plastic surgery*N X E
Prison scenes*W f S****
Prostitution (public pretense)*U Z P S
Prostitution (actual)*N Z P E
Pony slave*U Z p S
Public exposure*U Z P E**********
Punishment Scene*W F P S*****
Pussy/cock whipping*W F p S*
Pussy worship*W F S
Riding crops*W f p C****
Riding the "horse"*X
Rituals*W F S**
Religious scenes U f S***************
Restrictive rules on behavior*W F S
Rubber/latex clothing*Y f
Rope body harness*X***
Saran wrapping*U X C***********
Scarification*N*X P E
Scratching - getting*W X P S********
Scratching - giving**U X S
Sensory deprivation**Y F p C
Serving*W F S
Serving as art**W F S*************
Serving as ashtray*U f P E*******
Serving as furniture*Y F p S
Serving as a maid*W F S
Serving as toilet (urine) Y Z P E******
Serving as toilet (feces)*N X P E
Serving as waitress/waiter*W f S
Serving orally (sexual) Y F
Serving other doms (supervised) W F p S**
Serving other doms (unsupervised) U F P E
Sexual deprivation (short term)**W F C
Sexual deprivation (long term)***W Z C
Shaving (body hair)*Y X
Shaving (head hair)*Y X C
Skinny-dipping*Y X
Sleep deprivation*W Z P E********
Sleepsacks*X
Slutty clothing (private)**Y f p ***
Slutty clothing (public)***W F P S
Spandex clothing*W X C
Spanking*Y F p C
Speech restrictions (when, what)*W F p S
Speculums (Anal)*U X p
Speculums (vaginal)*U X p***
Spitting U X P S***********
Spreader bars*W F p C***********
Standing in corner*W f p S*****
Stocks*W f p C**************
Straight jackets W F p C*************
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)**Y F p C
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)*Y F p C *****************************
Strapping (full body beating)*N Z P E
Suspension (upright)*W f
Suspension (inverted)*W f P S***
Suspension (horizontal)*W f p S
Supplying new partners for Dom N X P E*
Swallowing feces*N X P E
Swallowing semen*Y f C****
Swallowing urine*Y Z P S**
Swapping (with one other couple) U f P S
Swinging (multiple couples)*N X P E
Tampon Training (in ass)*X
Tattooing*N Z P E
Teasing**W F p C***********
Thumbcuffs (metal)*X********
Tickling**Y f p C
Triple penetration W F P S*************
Urethral Sounds (metal rods) X *
Uniforms*W X
Including others W f p S***************
Vaginal dildo*X
Verbal humiliation*W F p S***
Vibrator on genitals*Y X ***
Voyeurism (watching others) W X P C******
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)*W F P S
Video (watching others)*Y X
Video (recordings of you)*U Z p E**
Water torture*U Z P E
Waxing (hair removal)*Y F P C*******
Wearing symbolic jewelry*W Z S
Weight gain (forced)*N X P E
Weight loss (forced)**U f P E
Whipping*W F P S
Wooden paddles*W F P S***********
Wrestling**U X C