advise please

[VeniVidi]

Assuming he's just left for the evening and there will be other times you feel the same, there are quite a few threads about similar issues and I will attempt to briefly summarise what I remember from them.

If you have discussed your wants needs and desires to be a sub and he is not interested in being a Dom (i.e. this is what you meant by "rebuffed you") unfortunately there is little you can do within your relationship. There are obviously other possibilities if your marriage is open, for example.

If the rebuff is probably temporary, e.g. tiredness, then the normal womanly wiles apply - a candlelit dinner, sexy clothes, whispers in the ear, and perhaps a hint on the bedside table like a paddle (from a kitchen drawer maybe) with the words "spank me" written on it. (Please ignore the shouts "topping from the bottom").

Of course it could be the same old story of the female dropping hints that they are sure must be obvious to even a blind man, and the male being even more blind than that. A flash of a naked body is more likely to get most males' attention than the subtle application of a favourite perfume that he's probably forgotten the smell of - we can be bastards. (Ignore the further shouts)

And if you've tried both the naked body and the perfume without success, it is high time for a heart-to-heart discussion between you.

Hope this helps

VV

[maria32]

but thank you xx