Submission is a gift?

[Crushers Rose]

Master Sergeant...The fact that it's a challenge and a responsibility doesn't negate it being a gift for One to be worthy of first. To say, "There is a great deal more to the D/s relationship than the servitude of the sub to the Dom." almost sounds like you may think that your half of the dynamic is belittled and not given enough credit? To the contrary, I think it deserves quite a lot of credit...but it also sounds as if that statement may be belittling servitude as well. Does that mean that girl gives you her "servitude".. and then that's it? She's given all she has to give and there's nothing left for her to accomplish? I wonder sometimes whether some understand the extent of what "servitude" entails. It is an ongoing thing, and encompasses so many ways of being of "service". There is a reason that submission is not for the weak. Is her servitude and submission any less valuable than your Dominance? No. In my opinion they are both a gift. Not only do I want to know that the Man I serve is worthy of my service.. but I want to know that he deems me worthy of serving Him. His Dominance is also a gift, and one that should never been taken for granted.

Desperado.. Not only do I consider submission and Dominance, both, to be a gift.. but I would argue that, even without each other, they mean quite a bit more than "very little". I am slave. I am not slave because I jumped up one day and decided that it looked interesting. It is, innately, who and what I am. I am not any less a slave (or submissive) if I am alone. Does an artist cease to be an artist, simply because they are not currently holding a paint brush? If I were unowned, I would still be slave... it is who and what I am. Being unowned would simply mean that I currently have no Master/Dominant to serve. It doesn't even mean that I cease to grow in my submission, because to learn is to grow.. and I grew in leaps and bounds before I met my Master. Without the Dominance of Another my submission would still mean so much that I would still be looking for ways to nurture it (to learn and grow), thereby making myself an even an even better "me" for the One who would be worthy of my submission.

[Master Sergeant]

C. Rose
You make good points and defend your view well. Submission is a gift and the hardest thing for a Dom to do is to simply accept the gift of submission while both looking and listening for the needs of the sub in order to nurture the continued growth and satisfaction of both members. I respect your feedback.

[Master Sergeant]

Crushers Rose: I respect your feedback / response but, I need to clarify. I do not in any way "Belittle" or make slight of a subs admittance of their desire to submit. I stand on my opinion that once stated in an open and frank discussion between two people, the challenge is to study, learn and provide the optimal environment to which the sub has so courageously expressed a desire to serve. This can only be accomplished by accepting the "Newly Revealed" desire of the sub. To say okay and do little to nothing toward learning to become a knowledgeable Dom is a recipe for failure on the Doms part. Prior to divulging the desire to be submissive to their (His / Her) partner, a prospective or potential sub has kept this desire a secret. I do not and did not say weak or unworthy, nor lesser valued. I valued my sub before her expressed desire to serve. I value her and her need to serve at an elevated level. I simply state that the role of Dom is to grow in order to meet the subs need. Good conversation on the topic.