I used to argue with feminists all the time that if women didn't acquiesce to a subordinate role they wouldn't consistently end up in one. The same is true of men, if a man wants to be the more successful member of a couple it's incumbent on him to work hard enough to make himself so, if he can't he can either accept that and be happy with the woman he has or leave her and find a less successful woman that won't be such a challenge to his ego. Either way men need to get it clear that in today's world just the possession of a y chromosome isn't enough to make you a dom, that is a role that has to be earned and maintained through a lifetime of constant effort, someone not willing to make that effort shouldn't expect the rewards that would come if they did.