Thanks for the reply guys and gals, I appreciate it. I genuinely though I was being a little too harsh when I was writing this letter and in no way wanted to encourage him to continue this with me. I naively thought I was saying 'not on your life mate' instead apparently I was saying 'umm ok but only if I get to know you a bit better first'....

I guess I was going for the more subtle 'ladylike' approach of asking ~ was he in the whole of his health if he thought I was going to meet with a compete stranger and then just hand him my under ware? While I've no problems meeting someone getting to know them /trust them and then giving up control... Meeting a complete stranger and giving him any notion that he's the one in control scares the living hell out of me! After some consideration and reading your responses I decided to just ignore the guy. You never know who's at the end of a keyboard and I don't want to piss off the wrong nutter and become a statistic!!