What I'm interested in right now is: Where do I find someone ?

I'm from Europe. I'm not very social. I don't know my way around 'the scene' and I'm not really interested in girls from my own country (not a racial thing, just an attitude thing).
I'm not looking for a playdate, I'm looking for a relationship. But I want to be sure someone has at least the same interests (so not vanilla). I'm kinda 'straight to the point, don't waste my time'. I usually don't really date either, my relationships develop online mostly up to a point where we meet.

This place seems close to dead. Are there any sites to 'meet' people, make your desires known and see if you can find someone ? LDR is fine with me to start with.
(and please no fetlife, it looks like a mess)