I agree with everyone else, I had someone I was talking to when I first joined wanted to run my whole life after about 2hrs. of talking. I guess he thought "new" meant "stupid". I think whether it is a "vanilla" relationship or a BDSM on it is all about one thing, trust. You have to know someone more to give parts of yourself up to them in either type. If he is really interested and you ask him for more time, he will give it to you. If not then I say good riddance, but one thing I have learned in my life is ALWAYS listen to your gut instincts. If if feels wrong it probably is, but I don't wish you all the luck in the world, Be safe.