Thank you both for the information; I really liked what deigja said about the safe word being different than "stop", and the fun you can have with that particular setup. Very cool!!! We do have a safeword but I'm thinking I'll ask how he feels about going with red green yellow...makes alot of sense to have a "warning" word in there before the oh crap stop it now please word. Really smart!
And Solis I love what you've described about the relationship possibilities available. There is so much freedom that I'm' seeing in it. You are dead on about our vanilla relationships, how "everyone knows" what certain things mean......so far I've managed to have failed in all my relationships and I'm really oping that this new chapter, with this new person, will be a longer and more fullfilling in all ways, partnership.
I know that if I ever do get a collar from him, it will mean so much. And I'll be SO proud to wear it.
Looking forward with excitement has been lacking in my life for so long that having it again feels odd.....I'm nowhere near getting myself out of this failing marriage and getting to be with my man for good, but it's slowly moving in the right direction. And hope is another very new, very tender emotion that I'm feeling anew. Seems like it's all possible now....