as someone who's been a switch for over 30 years I would have to say I'm not at all confused, I know what I want and enjoy and I decided quite definitely not to forego half of it. It has always puzzled Me that so many of the same people, gay and straight, dom/me and sub, who claim that their sexual preferences aren't a choice then turn around and say that switch and bisexual people should or must make the choice that they, the speakers, say doesn't have to be made.