The Online Age: Or, a Young Online Dominant's Illustrative Primer

[just_ine]

I'm bumping this old thread after talking about it to a Friend.

After rereading it, I want to add that I agree...what a subbie doesn't need is an inconsistant Dom. Nothing that makes me feel all fluttery inside than when He demands only my best. It gives the message that He actually think I am able to do what He asks of me. And so it empowers me...

Go figure... Giving over control is an empowering thing...

[thir]

I'm bumping this old thread after talking about it to a Friend.

After rereading it, I want to add that I agree...what a subbie doesn't need is an inconsistant Dom. Nothing that makes me feel all fluttery inside than when He demands only my best. It gives the message that He actually think I am able to do what He asks of me. And so it empowers me...

Go figure... Giving over control is an empowering thing...

And I agree with you both, but have to say it is quite rare to find a Dom who is consistent.

[Mrs-Sett {Kuve}]

And I agree with you both, but have to say it is quite rare to find a Dom who is consistent.

Consistency is difficult to find as dynamics do vary. Dom or subbing by numbers’ would provide such a thing, but as each relationship is unique, it would be difficult to successfully maintain. However, should honest communication actually be embraced then an exclusive form could be achieved.

Unfortunately, I could offer that when one determines ‘this’ works/worked, they may be reluctant to accept that this could fail to be as effective within another relationship. Then the interaction deteriorates, as the parties involved fail to achieve what they truly desire. Play becomes simply that play’ and people get let down or in the worst case scenario badly hurt.

Empowerment of another is exquisite when it is provided, but has to be accepted for it to be effective?