Is this a "red flag"?

[TheDoctor]

Hmm, yes, the 'How dare you' response... Judgementalism at its finest. I could understand it if you had gone to people in his local life and outed him, but that is not the case here. As I said above, the only people that get twisted about safety issues are those with something to hide.

I think you comported yourself well in this situation. Keep that solid head firmly on your shoulders and you are going to be just fine.

[Silverraven]

Yes I did get lucky and learned a lesson. So chin up and eyes straight ahead into(hopefully) a bright future. I have a feeling I will be asking for advice again it helps a lot! Hugs to you all!