Welcome, Fred.

Here's a word of philosophy: if you're going to be in charge, your guiding principle must be that every decision must benefit her at least as much as it benefits you. Making sure that you do that takes time, thought, planning and calculation. You can certainly go for cheap thrills (strip 'er down, tie 'er up, tuck in the vibe 'n' leave 'er on the porch) but while that might be part of a long-term relationship, it's not a sustainable core for such a relationship.

Oddly, some of the New Testament writers ended up offering good advice to prospective doms. 1 Timothy 3:1-16: "The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task. Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God's church?"

Read much, talk with many, propose plans, move patiently, rule lovingly ...

S.