Anal sex

[AndrewBlack]

Actually it is not uncommon for the external sphincter to become weakened by regular intercourse. You can only really appreciate this when someone is anaesthetized though.

[slavelucy]

Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
Think of it this way: Women can give birth to something the size of a watermelon and their vaginas still retain their natural tightness, despite that fact. Same thing for the anus. .[/COLOR]

But the vagina was designed with giving birth in mind...hence why the tissues and muscles are much more recuperative and elastic....i mean, i agree that the anus can withstand an awful lot of wear and tear (thank god! ), but i don't think the comparison to the vagina is a good one all the same.

sl

[BDSM_Tourguide]

Originally posted by AndrewBlack
Actually it is not uncommon for the external sphincter to become weakened by regular intercourse. You can only really appreciate this when someone is anaesthetized though.

I think a better term for it would be relaxed, not weakened. Weakened signifies that something will not assume its previous state, which, by my experience, is untrue. Go a month or so without having anal sex with a woman and her anus will tighten up again and become harder to penetrate.

I stand by my orignal replies.

[BDSM_Tourguide]

Originally posted by slavelucy
But the vagina was designed with giving birth in mind...hence why the tissues and muscles are much more recuperative and elastic....i mean, i agree that the anus can withstand an awful lot of wear and tear (thank god! ), but i don't think the comparison to the vagina is a good one all the same.

sl

I dunno, lucy, I've had things come out of my ass that were nearly as big as my daughter. LMAO


Seriously, though, the perineal lining of the anus is very similar to that or the vagina. A lot of the same muscle types and whatnot. I would dare to guess, judging by what our doctors told us during FF's pregnancy, that much of the loosening of the vagina and then the contraction afterwards is done by hormonal response and not by pure physical force.

[whippedcream]

I was doing anal like 2 or 3 times a week for almost a year. I don’t think there’s been any permanent loosening, since after a month of not doing it, I wasn’t used to it anymore and it was at least as difficult as the first time.

Difficult, but not necessarily painful in a bad way. The key thing is to make sure you're given more time to relax *after* your partner is inside. Even if they’ve stretched you out really well and entered carefully, usually you clench up and need a second to adjust. If your partner is attentive and responds well to verbal directions, it might not even be necessary to worry about controlling the movement yourself. I thought it was romantic that no matter how good it was feeling for him, he would always hold back for my benefit, until I gave the ok to speed up.

If you’re worried about pain, I wouldn’t recommend lying on your back and pulling your knees up. You feel very trapped and it goes very deep and there’s not a whole lot you can do about it. Hands and knees, or lying flat on my belly, always worked best for me. The only problem with that is your partner can’t see your face, so if you want him/her to ease up you’ll have to say something out loud.

Oh and one more bit of buttknowledge: We’d read someplace that you should always use a condom and we did, but once we made the mistake of getting those non-latex ones that kind of remind me of saran wrap. It was all wrinkly, not smooth like the good old Trojans, and rubbed horribly and I was bleeding. So those condoms are not the way to go.

[BDSM_Tourguide]

Originally posted by whippedcream
Oh and one more bit of buttknowledge: We’d read someplace that you should always use a condom

I've never used a condom for anal sex. I don't really see the point to it, unless you're just being conscious of your health.

Sounds like you'd have been better off not using one, too, whippedcream.

[Curtis]

Condoms for anal sex are mostly an HIV preventative, though lubricated condoms are sometimes recommended for ease of entry. That wouldn't be neccessary, though, if you use lots of lubricant to begin with. I have read one source that says condoms lessen the discomfort for the guy doing the penetrating, to which I can only reply, "Boo, hoo!"

[jaro_99]

angelstar...go with the top position to keep some control and allow your confidence to build...later you can get into the gymnastic stuff if it suits

you're bound still to feel some kind of discomfort at first - and its worth remembering that not everyone finds anal play to be total fun...some people actually find its not for them

still...your sphincters are muscles...so they should be able to be trained...and in a short time learn to accommodate most 'normal' sized thing anyone would want to place there

I think rather than pain the more likely comfort issue will be getting used to having that 'filled' feeling...like you're caught in the middle of a bowel movement

my only comment on condoms and lube...use plenty of wet stuff if you need it...but I also think it can make it harder for the other person to control the penetration...so if you're using lube to ease the entry just take it as a sign of the need for extra caution lest someone just 'slip' and give you the full length all in one go!!! - less of an issue if you're riding high :-)

and yeah...try and relax

[-angelstar-]

it is actually quite hard to relax, if you're absolutely against enemas.

then you keep worring the whole time like, omg what if its not clean in there. lols.

[bushman]

anglestar, nice to be clean "down there", but it all washes off with no problems...

[-angelstar-]

but isnt it really gross if you do it on the bed... and then you urm remove yourself, and see urm, you know, that there's stuff that came along....

icky isnt it :x

[bushman]

It can be a little "icky",,,, but it doesn't have to be something that ruins the fun.... just wash up and continue to play.... just part of the whole experience.......

[GaryWilcox]

Well, you can always enema for your guy beforehand...

* hint, hint *

[-angelstar-]

dont want to do an enema.

i dont know why. i just got a phobia of it?

[bushman]

anglestar, sounds like you need someone to "expand" you limits a bit. someone that you trust completely to be gentle with you and someone you can just give yourself over to.... with love and trust, you can play safe and find new ways to enjoy.......

[GaryWilcox]

Originally posted by -angelstar-
dont want to do an enema.

i dont know why. i just got a phobia of it?

You can get it done with a doctor, comfortably... you calling the shots. Try it once. It might give you the courage to do one yourself sometime.

[Lord Douche]

Originally posted by -angelstar-
dont want to do an enema.

i dont know why. i just got a phobia of it?

Come to LD's clinic, we'll take care of that phobia quick-smart! (Either that, or leave you terrified of the Doctors )

Have you ever tried one? Properly done, it can be nice and relaxing, not to mention good for you
LD

[-angelstar-]

Originally posted by Lord Douche
Come to LD's clinic, we'll take care of that phobia quick-smart! (Either that, or leave you terrified of the Doctors )

Have you ever tried one? Properly done, it can be nice and relaxing, not to mention good for you
LD

nope, never tried one. never even thought of trying it.



well if LD's clinic relocates to singapore. maybe i will stop by

say. which part of aussie are you in?

[whippedcream]

I was under the impression that condoms were a good idea because of bacteria and all, but the main thing I liked about it was that it really helped with the "what if I'm not as clean as I thought" worrying. I always imagined that having to scrub down a post-anal-sex penis would probably not be very pleasant, but if he's wearing a condom you just chuck it in the garbage and boom you're done.

[Lord Douche]

Originally posted by -angelstar-
well if LD's clinic relocates to singapore. maybe i will stop by

say. which part of aussie are you in?

It apppears I'm in the part that is furthest from Singapore: Melbourne!