Humiliation vs. Degradation

[moptop]

Thank you so much for bumping this thread, Alex. It has a lot of opinions and answers and information that I was looking for in my thread about humiliation.

I have never thought of name-calling (by him) humiliating, I find it a serious turn-on; I suppose it is humiliating, though; I was simply mixing up the meaning of it with degradation. I have some limits - cunt is a no-no - but I would never, ever accept anything that implied that I was worthless or unloved - I know he desires me and finds me beautiful and wants to be with me.

I do find other forms of humiliation difficult - exhibitionism is a mental turn-on, but I just can't do it - there are other places where I know I'm close to going - some serious grovelling would be really nice - but he has to take me there; and thinking of limits, it's also a question of the dom's limits: I don't think he would like to see me grovel. He would find that distasteful.

He is taking me to some other places that I find hard - but I do not find degrading. One of the reasons I don't find things degrading is because I know he doesn't intend me to be degraded. So I can (gradually) accept and open myself more to some other forms of play that I find deeply humiliating - and I know he finds an intense turn-on. I am also absolutely positive that once I've managed to let go, I too will find it an intense rush.

Still interested in other feedback in my thread, folks; thanks.

Just got to get there...

[Hime]

Are restrictions on eye contact, forms of address (i.e. "don't call me Master unless you're going to treat me like one"), etc considered humiliation?

I really enjoy getting called names, exhibitionism, and even humiliation play I consider somewhat more "hardcore." However, in our relationship the restrictions mentioned in the previous paragraph are serious punishments, not any kind of play.