Submissive/Slave Please introduce yourselves here

[gloombunny]

Natalie, it's a french thing. Since Dominatrix is just the translation of "dominatrice" from french and the french have a tendency to gener specify things, like lamp to "la lampe", etc... Anyways, since the Marquis De Sade is the grandfather to most of our modernday BDSM literature (or at least the perveyor of the goods to our knowledge), french was the mechanism in which much of the terminology was derived. Hence, Dom/me.

Are you sure it's not just a pseudo-French affectation?

[Primus_Pilus]

Are you sure it's not just a pseudo-French affectation?

Hrm, It might be, but I'ld be more inclined to believe that it was actually derived from a word instead of arbitrarily pulled outta some one's ass :P I'ld like to think that there's some method to the madness.

[submissivewife]

Sorry for what? It's great you are here. Hope you enjoy yourself.

[Aesop]

I have the compulsin to say sorry incase I have done something wrong, especialy when im talking to new people. I hope it doesnt annoy you all too much

It probably won't, but if it does you can always apologize.

[EnolaGay]

Now that is a truth. A very interesting one.
I have just come to realise that the people on this forum I have so far encountared have been the most patient and kind.

[DevotedSlave]

Hi im Debby the proud slave of mastervenom. i havent been doing this for very long and i am very eager to learn so i can be better for my master.

[redsonjaseattle]

Hi,
Just joined yesterday...I'm new to this, having started a relationship locally with a Dom in January and looks like I'm going to have to very sadly move on from Him.

Lots of reasons why, but i guess it comes down to this: i don't trust Him anymore, and that's a terrible feeling to discover, since he is my first Master.

I'm still sorting things out so that's why I am here. When i met him, He asked me to "open my heart, mind and soul" to him. After giving me his Collar, He made me learn his Vows and be able to recite them to him and also write him every day. He gave me assignments which i enjoyed doing, and a new name.

Things seemed to be going great until last week. And then he seemed to drop off the face of the earth, after urinating on me for the first time, then flogging me as i had my first sub-space experience.

I've been emailing him every day without a response, communicating my confusion and loneliness...and then i received a response from him today saying "I hope you are feeling better soon. but remember this is for fun."

WTF??? He's shaped me, molded me and now this...i am heartbroken. Am I just over reacting? This was more than just 'fun' for me, even though I'm married I expected...something more personal, i guess.

I don't know if this is 'done' in the D/s scene, but i replied to him "Are you or are you not my Master? You've made me very happy, and I like pleasing you. But i don't like mind games... so tell me now if this has just been a bunch of casual fucks for you wrapped up in D/s rhetoric."

Oh, i am still confused and scared, too. Any advice is greatly appreciated...and what do i do if he releases me? How do i return his Collar?
Am I crazy?

[Aesop]

First of all welcome to the forums Sonja. Something a lot of us learn during the beginning of our BDSM journey is that the BDSM community is just as full of jerks as the vanilla community. Now I don't know all the specifics so I won't label this man as a jerk, but your reply seems warranted. I wouldn't worry about what is 'done' in the d/s scene either. What is done is what you want to do. Each d/s relationship is different and made up of what the people involved want it to be made up of. End of story. There's no right way to do it. After telling you to open yourself up the way he did, he should have taken responsibility for those feelings and it looks like he's back-pedaling now. His collar is a symbol and nothing else. If the feelings behind the symbol have died then you simply give it back to him. I know I make it sound easy and it isn't, but that's the bottom line. You will find friends here if you look for them and you may count me among them. If you would like to chat or just vent in a pm feel free. I may be a stranger, but I've seen your situation many times. Good luck to you.

[Tojo]

redsonjaseattle, you don't sound crazy to me- crazy would more like if you were to put up with being treated in a way that was unacceptable to you.

In my opinion, as well as the majority it seems- do as Aesop says, & forget about what's 'done' in the D/s world.

A D/s relationship is like any other, it's between 2 people & to hell with what others think. Seems to me many of the people who don't care about what they're doing are the ones who spout 'rules' & what you should or shouldn't do.

Do what is right. If someone betrays your trust & won't listen to you, do what it takes.

As far as him 'releasing you', you have the right to do as you please, the same as anyone. If not, laws are being broken.

You have to decide for yourself what you want without compromise. If you can't sort it out with him you know better than anyone what you have to do.

As for what you said- "so tell me now if this has just been a bunch of casual fucks for you wrapped up in D/s rhetoric."

Well put, I couldn't have said it better myself! Sounds like you've got it pretty well figured.

Tojo

[stripedangel]

Hello to all!

i've been in the chats, and met a few of you. So, here's my formal intro...

Mr.FixIt and i have been married for 11 years, and have been in the lifestyle for one. We had toyed with the kinks, but i was the one in charge, for the most part, in our marriage.

A year ago, i asked Him if he would be my Dom....so here we are.

Nice to meet y'all!

Sooo here we are!

[Ozme52]

All too often, one's first D/s relationship will follow a path similar to one's first romantic relationship. Just as that highschool romance can be heartbreaking, it is also a life lesson. A few blossom and last, most don't. But the lessons learned will lead you to making good decisions in the future.

...and what do i do if he releases me? How do i return his Collar?
Am I crazy?

If he releases you, in my opinion, move on. Maybe even if he doesn't release you. Trying to hang on to a bad D/s relationship can destroy your self esteem. The collar, don't bother. It sounds to me like it was just a prop for him. If he asks for it back, mail it.

Ultimately, you're in charge of your submission.

[Camp]

My name is Campion... I love entertainment and anything history related.

[josh_18]

Hi, Im Josh and i am a submissive male. i am 18 years old and am pretty new to this. I love BDSM and i would like a Mistress to guide me etc... I have had a Mistress in r/l but she was pretty new to BDSM too and we have both decided to search for new Mistresses or in her case a male sub.
If you are a Mistress Dom and would be serious about talking and getting to know me please contact me via this site. Thanks

[ash_DREAMING]

This girl is known as ash. She is a submissive/slave but is vastly inexperienced. This girl hopes to find an online mistress here, or at least some friends who are into this culture because this girl knows no one in her family or at her school who is into this culture. :[ Please message this girl if you want to be this girl's friend!

[locobaybee]

Hi.........I joined yesterday.........I am new to this lifestyle, just the past month.......I am a 48 year old straight female. I have been married and divorced twice and just got out of a long term relationship. I have always had a curiosity about this life style but my interest was piqued when I started dating my Master .

He somehow knew that this was what I needed and he is bringing me to the point that I now know I am a sub.......I have never felt so at home then when he is disciplining me or when I am serving him.

I hope to learn a lot to please him. Any suggestions or help I would greatly appreciate!!

[southernwildcat]

I'm 28, stubborn and strong-willed, but I have always wanted to be dominated. I am, again in another vanilla relationship, but this time the boyfriend is just about asexual. Yes. I said asexual. Long story. Would love to find someone who can respect my intelligence, my family obligations and combine it with my need to be dominated. I don't know, maybe I am asking for too much??

[bpqueen]

Three weeks ago I was invited to a fetish gathering, which I was unable to attend, and began researching BDSM more in depth than my dalliances in the past. Two weeks ago, I discovered that my aggressive outward personality hides a scared submissive longing for direction. Last week my friend began to lavish attention upon me. Last night I gained a Master in my friend. I can't wait to see what happens next week!

I am a 28 year old married female who wants to learn how to find herself, and is just beginning the journey. My husband is not my Master, but my Master bids me to be good to my husband, and I will work hard to make them both happy. As I am COMPLETELY new to subbing, any advice is good advice :-)

[wind_dancer{W_W}]

my "name" is submit2Dom
my real name is bree
i go by bee
i am thuroughly in love with my Lord (Wind_Walker25)
stop by and say hi anytime you want

[hiscocksuckerslave]

hi new to the lifestyle been a sub/slave for 7 months now
in real life, my name says is all it's what i love best to
suck his cock when ever he demands...
we dont live together but i am available whenever
he calls....i am comfortable with our relationship and cant see
myself in any other kind of relationship...
i am looking forward to many rewarding years with the same Dom/Master....
i have learned alot from this
website and i thank everyone for the information that has been
provided here

[amislaaf]

My name is Amislaaf, which stands for American Slave. I live in Europe and am married to my Mistress. I serve her and her lovers (both male and female).

I enjoy being a slave and enjoy the humiliation of servicing her lovers and cleaning her after. Life is good as a slave and the humiliating f some of the things I must do really adds to my excitement and I think it is what keeps me happy as a slave/cocksucker whimp hubby or whatever she deems to call me.

Been in the lifestyle for only about the last 7 years and really enjoy it, would love to take it to a complete 24/7 but guess we or I am not ready for that yet.

Anyway anyone can feel free to contact me and ask questions or offer advice both are welcome...

Amislaaf

[srix]

I'm completely new here. Just joined the site couple weeks ago. I'm consider myself as a unowned submissive male but I want to learn more and go more in depth. I want/is looking for an online mistress to show me my limits or at least get me started in this lifestyle.

[tentative]

Hi. I'm very new to the the lifestyle and am nervous how to even begin anything.

I'm 18 with a deep submissive streak and have been interested in the D/s scene for a long while.

I just thought I'd pop in and introduce myself instead of lurking creepily in the shadows *grins*


Talk to eveyone later

[markus_valtion]

hello.

i have been on the forum for a while and came to the conclusion that i'm submissive. although i dont know the what extent yet. i hope i can find out who i realy am and have fun in the proces .

[amislaaf]

I am Amislaaf (American Slave) who lives in Europe, I enjoy humiliation and serving my wife (mistres) and her bf's (my masters), I do not enjoy sucking cock and eating cum, but it is who I am and i do as told... also the humiliation is over powering the dislike.

[buDdha]

Since I'm new here I'll introduce myself; hope to become part of the regular bunch.

I'm 30 and live on the west coast of the US of A. Highly intellectual type who needs to unwind now and again. I've been interested in sub bx since I can remember my first rape fantasies. Have lived out power play though casual encounters, mostly just getting off on being the seducer/ee. I guess the term is "switch"?

Married now and trying to figure out how to bring the power play into a marriage grounded in friendship and affection, and with a partner for whom the bdsm scene is unappealing. After yet another crazy sub dream, I woke up yesterday determined to find a community, and here I am.

Yesterday it occurred to me that I can reconsider my current relationship in new terms, and can recognize and take pleasure from the ways I "serve" my fella. It was a nice one for me, especially given my fella's general disinterest in bdsm culture. But I'm wondering how to expand, and how to draw him in, if possible. You can see my question along this line posted on the newbie forum (How to "bring it up" and Marriage).

I'm just so happy to meet you all, and to read how diverse our stories are. I certainly don't fit into any of the stereotypical boxes I thought bdsm was all about! Thanks to this site for helping me out there.

I'd love to hear more from my sisters out there on how to bring power play to a marriage, the change from casual to marriage, how to explore my own side without breaking the terms of my commitment -- some swinging w/ mutual participation is ok, but I don't see my fella swinging this way, and online "affairs" are off limits too. But I want to explore this sub side, and not sure how to do it. HELP!

[new@thisbut<3it]

hey there
i listed in my profile that i was a switch, but im really more of a sub. i like to sub (ALOT) but bc my husband likes to sub everynow and then, i am somewhat of a dom. i like both, but again, i like subbing more.
history, i just got into the lifestyle, really, when i married my husband. i had had sum experience b4 that, mostly nails and biting, nothing much, and some of my friends were like, well thats bdsm. so, my husband and i checked it out, and have been learning about it since. still pretty much an amatuer. but i like being whipped, and some knifeplay. being forced, being tied down, again, still pretty much an amatuer, and trying to learn more everyday.

[Sanapet]

Hello, I'm Sanapet, you may call me Sana if you wish.

I'm 19 and have been with my current Master for almost three years. He is my first Master and also the love of my life. I would do anything for Him. We met online and had a very extensive relationship through web cam, phone calls, and chat/IM. We met the first time last summer when I graduated high school and went to college. As said above he is my first Master and I am his first slave so we've just been learning together. We make up alot of the rules according to what we both enjoy and can tolerate.

He has recently discovered the relieving sensation that comes from Serving as bottom and he has been encouraging me to explore my Domme side. I'm having a bit of trouble, being a natural submissive since before I really knew what being submissive meant. So if anyone has any advice on Switching I would much appreciate the advice.

Also, I'm very open about myself and don't mind answering any question anyone might have for me.

Sana

[cheyanneautum]

Hello everyone,
i am called blue by my Master. i live in Florida with my Master/Husband,
i am what you would call a late bloomer, always have had these feelings and wants but in the previous relationship he was as vallina as they come therefore i was deemed a pervert when i ask a few questions about it. But much to my delight i have found someone who actually had been in this wonderful lifestyle for years but was leary of telling me about it.
i am still learning and as you know it is not easy starting out.
i did not mean to write a book lol but i think this is a wonderful site and it is nice to be able to share things with like people.


blue

[cherri]

Hi, my name is cherri, and i'm very new here. i am a subby girl with masochistic tendencies (i believe the popular phrase is 'pain slut') and i am bi-sexual. i have never had a true Dom/me IRL, however i have had two online Dommes, neither of them working out in the long run.

I am currently in a relationship (3 years now) with a wonderful woman who isn't a true Domme, but has a dominant personality and who indulges me by RPing lighter BDSM scenes with my on a regular basis. i tend to be shy, although in the right mood, i can also be very chatty and find that the semi anonymity of online sites allows me to be more out going then normal.

xoxo
cherri

[bdsmsub69]

I've been fantasizing about being tied up and stuff like that for years upon years yet could never find anyone who wanted to do it. I'm a 25/m from the bay area of Cali. How could i change the fact i'm still a bdsm virgin?