How to punish a masochist?

[mina]

The essay, one of my favorite punishments. So is having someone sit still and be quiet.

Taking away privileges, for a set period of time, also works well.

Withholding food or water, keeping someone from and/or going to the bathroom -- all of those can be considered over the line punishments.

I agree, the essay and taking away privileges are both good punishments. But actually I think withholding (or even just limiting how much) food/water works quite well too, especially if the sub loooves eating. Being told what time you can eat again makes you even more hungry, as you look forward to it and it seems so far away. And if your dom/me eats in front of you… that’s just cruel lol.

[LadyK]

I believe my sub borders on masochism, however, he won't tell me. I have noticed that he does not wince when the whippings get more intense so what I have done to punish him is to not start out easy and work up to a flogging but go straight to the heavy artillery and occassionally direct the blows to a more sensitive place. I know he does not like not being able to reach the sub zone. When he begs forgiveness is when I will sooth the welts and start him over again for his and my pleasures. I in no way ever draw blood. That is one of my hard limits.

[shins]

Thank you all for the continued comments. I made some changes to my internet, had trouble during the site server swap, and have otherwise been "busy" now that angel is here.

For an update, I've found that I know longer need to call her "dashi". It was a name given to her, because of the neverending "excuses" I received from her before she lived with me. The presence of her family impacted her ability to serve properly before she moved in with me, but now, she has no excuses >. I'm also pleased to announce that she has given very little reason to be punished since she has been here. Perhaps because of this thread and the fact that I can "reach out and touch her now"...

After living with her 24/7 for a couple of weeks, I have found a few special ways to keep her in line. Tone of voice is everything in our dynamic. If I'm being playful/gentle with her, she responds accordingly. If I'm being stern and demanding, she strives to please to the best of her ability. As far as physical discipline and her masochism goes, I've figured out that she perceives "happy pain" and "I'm in trouble pain" much differently. It's all in the communication and the purpose of the discipline. If I tell her "You've been bad and what we're doing is to make up for that", she gets no enjoyment out of it, and it serves as intended. I've also learned that different toys/tools generate a much different reaction on her part. She enjoys the warming affect of the chain flogger as it covers and reddens large areas of skin. However, she wants to run or crumple into the fetal position attempting to hide from the sting of the tiny leather flogger. So in short, after exposure to the tiny leather flogger, if she acts out, I can simply hold it in my hand and let her see it, and I instantly have the perfect submissive, lol.

We are having a great time, and both of us are glad that she has moved in with me. We'll keep everyone updated as time goes on.

[_ID_]

shins - Glad to hear things are working out for you. Enjoy and cherrish her, and she will remain the jewl you see. Remember to never take her for granted. Of couse I am sure you know this.

Enjoy, and I look forward to hearing more from you

V/R
ID

[Silke]

Ooooohh, sounds like you're having fun alright! *grins* I'm happy things are going great for the two of you and hope you'll keep us updated.

[shins]

shins - Glad to hear things are working out for you. Enjoy and cherrish her, and she will remain the jewl you see. Remember to never take her for granted. Of couse I am sure you know this.

Enjoy, and I look forward to hearing more from you

V/R
ID

Aye, she is certainly a jewel and deserves to be cherished.

[Psynymph]

a jewel W/we will cut and shape to perfection, hehe

but yes she is quite fun!

[shins]

a jewel W/we will cut and shape to perfection, hehe

but yes she is quite fun!

LOL, angel is sitting next to me as she read your post, nymph. Talk about blushing And yes, we will cut and shape her to perfection, kittykat.

Edited to fix the typos that were evident after the first cup of coffee.