Is cyber cheating

[ThisYouWillDo]

so how would all them doms and subs out there feel if they found emails letters and pics or what ever of there vanilla partners cybering because they dont feel loved understood or enuff time has been spent with them ? people think about life for them

I'd think, Aha! There's hope ...

TYWD

[tessa]

Everyone has differing opinions and they are strewn all throughout this forum. A search on cheating may turn up some interesting posts.

And too many of them, at that. They should be combined into one big ol' cheating thread, call it the 'Blame Game'.

so how would all them doms and subs out there feel if they found emails letters and pics or what ever of there vanilla partners cybering

I'd think, Aha! There's hope ...

Brilliantly stated, TYWD.

[sidhewolf]

so how would all them doms and subs out there feel if they found emails letters and pics or what ever of there vanilla partners cybering because they dont feel loved understood or enuff time has been spent with them ? people think about life for them

I'd Hope they would Realize they had reaped what they had sewn?....pehaps a bit to late depending?....but none the less. There is Lessons in everything for those willing to Learn isn't there?

Vanilla Partner's, LifeStyle Partner's, whatever Style Partner's...if one does not give enough to that Relationship esp because one is involved in other O/L or RT ITF Relationship's, one WILL eventually lose That Relationship. A consequence of irresponsibility I believe. If one cannot Manage more than one Relationship successfully, perhaps it's a good idea not to have or create more than one can Manage Time and Quality for?

Everyone makes their Choices. Even not Choosing is a Choice.

Respectfully~SidheWolf

[Ozme52]

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Ditto

[mkemse]

if i had a signifigantother and in an open relastionship, i would disucss it with her ato see how she felt, but i would also know that my signifigant otherwould have thesame feelings and beliefs that i do or we probably would not be together to startwith, do i think cybering is cheating, no there si not physical contact and to me you have to have physical contatct to cal it chearting, but this is only my belief, to my cybering is fantasy nothing more nothing less if it became RL then yes it would be cheating because phyiscal contact would be involved to me the key is physical contact

[Mr.J]

lol yes a dom would love to find out there is shit going on behind there back they have no control over

[sidhewolf]

lol yes a dom would love to find out there is shit going on behind there back they have no control over

<G> Not for point of argument....but a Dom who ignores Their Responsibility and pushes a Sub or Slave to meet their own needs elsewhere has made that Choice conciously or not. When a Dom abdicates Their Throne the Subjects will scatter seeking One to Take it.

Respectfully~SidheWolf

[Wedjat]

I think D and sidhewolf have made some good points. I got the feeling reading this that some tried to kind of gloss over some of D's comments - forgive me if I have misinterpreted what was said, but I'm glad that someone expanded on what D originally brought up. I know ALL relationships take care and attention by both parties.

One of my vanilla sisters and her husband had a problem a while back. She has medical issues that make the physical acts of even vanilla sex difficult (back and neck issues) and she found out he was cybering and getting kind of serious with a lady online. She was devastated, and he felt like shit when he realized how it had made her feel. In this case it wasn't even the physical act (the online lady in question lived in another country), but the emotional hurt it caused. So, yeah, cyber CAN feel like cheating. The sad thing is, I can see both sides of their issue too - he obviously had issues that she couldn't meet and they were drifting apart. The upside - they've come through it and have gotten closer for it, but it wasn't easy. Now if they only had insurance that would cover the chronic pain in her back. I know, it's only one example,but I figured it was worth mentioning.

[Sir Robert]

Please respond your opinion on cyber...

Many times cyber relationships become very close and intimate. Cyber mates share their darkest secrets and often totally open and participate in spectacular sexual fantasies. I agree that if done outside of your normal relationship it is cheating. However that being said I love it.....

[Tojo]

I find it interesting that people have such heated opinions & emotions about a topic like cyber cheating... makes you wonder about everyone's life experiences & current relationships... hmmmm

Oh I don't find it suprising- if you're in an exclusive relationship, surely you don't want your partner to be sharing passion with others behind your back in any way?

[ThisYouWillDo]

Oh I don't find it suprising- if you're in an exclusive relationship, surely you don't want your partner to be sharing passion with others behind your back in any way?

No - but I can

[Ozme52]

Oh I don't find it suprising- if you're in an exclusive relationship, surely you don't want your partner to be sharing passion with others behind your back in any way?

Why not? It steals nothing from me.

It's not like there's a limited supply and any given elsewhere leaves less for me.