Hard limit questionaire for both Doms and subs to help them find long term partners

[Arria]

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no - hard limit
Age play: no - hard limit
Anal sex: yes - 5
Anal plugs (small): no - 2
Anal plugs (large): no - 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no - 2
Animal roles: no - hard limit
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no - 1
Asphyxiation: yes - 5
Auctioned for charity: no - one of my favourite fantasies, but doubt I would want it r/l.
Bathroom use control: no - hard limit
Bestiality: no - hard limit
Beating (soft): yes - 2
Beating (hard): yes - 5
Blindfolds: yes - 3 to 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes - 1 (if it is not done in a submissive way...)
Being bitten: yes - 5
Breast/chest bondage: no - too small I think, lol
Breath control: yes - 5
Branding: no - idea fascinates me, but I am scared.
Boot worship: no - would love to try, though (me doing the worship, lol);
yes - had it done once (got worshipped). Liked it a lot but need not have it again (I could not feel submissive during it...).
Bondage (light): yes - 1 (love to have my hands tied and fixed above me)
Bondage (heavy): no - I doubt I would like it.
Bondage (multi-day): no - hard limit
Bondage (public, under clothing): no - I doubt I would like it, I hate to feel hindered in any way publicly.
Bondage and Sex: no - the one guy who bound me naked had no better use for me than TICKLE me - idiot...
Breast whipping: yes - 3 to 4 (love to have my back whipped most of all!)
Brown showers (scat): no - hard limit
Cages (locked inside of): no - unsure about this one. Dom would not be allowed to leave me alone during it!
Caning: yes - 4
Catheterization: NO HELL - hard limit
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no - locked up alone is a hard limit
Chastity belts: no - no interest at all.
Chauffeuring: no - eye sight too bad to drive (lack of depth perception)
Choking: yes - 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes - 1 (prefer clamps, dislike the dull pain of clothes pins)
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes - see above
Clothespins body: yes - see above
Cock worship: I worship my Dom´s cock pretty much, lol
Collars (worn in private): yes - 5
Collars (worn in public): yes - I wear mine always, it is unobtrusive, so 5.
Competitions (with other Subs): no - hard limit
Corsets (wearing): yes - 3
Cuffs: yes - 5 (get that too rarely)
Cuffs (metal): yes - 5 (see immediate above, lol)
Cutting: yes - 5 (wish I did not scar so easily)
Dilation: not sure?
Double penetration: no - favourite fantasy of mine, but I doubt I would like it r/l, and I want no other man in my bed. If hubby could clone himself, I would be willing!
Electricity: yes - nice, but don´t need it all the time
Enemas: no - would die if someone watched me
Enforced chastity: no - dislike that idea; I am good when my Dom is not around, but chastity while he IS around? Hell no.
Examinations (physical): no - does not attract me
Exercise (forced/required): no - does not attract me
Exhibitionism (friends): yes - depends on the situation
Exhibitionism (strangers): no - unless you count that one time I walked stark naked through a 80-bed dormitory in Amsterdam when I was 20 *cough*, but I did that for fun, it was not ordered by anyone, I was single then.
Eye contact restrictions: no - the idea attracts me hugely, though (though I like to look at my Dom very much, drools)
Face slapping: yes - 5
Fantasy abandonment: no - hard limit, being abandoned alone
Fantasy rape: no - 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: no - 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no - hard limit
Fantasy forced rape anal: no - 4
Fantasy gang-rape: no - again, favourite fantasy, but think I would not like it r/l.
Fisting (anal): no - hell ouch - haven´t made my mind up about that one.
Fisting (vaginal): yes - loved it during it - hated it the 3 days afterwards. Did it only once.
Flogging: yes - 5
Following hand signals: no - have not made my mind up regarding it, but would be willing to try.
Following orders: yes - (sexual context) - 5
Foot worship: noyesnoidea, I like to lick his feet when I am in the mood, does that count?
Forced dressing: no - hard limit
Forced homosexuality: no - hard limit (forced, that is)
Forced masturbation: no - have been too much of a chicken for that so far.
Forced nudity (private): I prefer to be naked, so it does not count.
Forced nudity (around others): forced, no. volunteering: depends on the situation.
Forced servitude: no - would be willing to try, though
Full head hoods: no - hard limit
Gags (cloth): yes - 3
Gags (penis shaped): no - I think not.
Gags (rubber): no - I think not.
Gags (tape): no - would be willing to try.
Gates of Hell: n/a
Genital sex: yes (rolls my eyes) - 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): yes, but only for a few beatings, and my Dom MUST stay present during it! depends on the situation/person, really.
Given away to another Domme (temp): no - never had a r/l Domme - find the idea very exciting online, though.
Given away to another Dom (perm): no - hard limit
Given away to another Domme (perm): no - hard limit
Golden showers: *BLUSH* rarely, liked it.
Greetings rituals: no - depends on the ritual, I guess.
Hairbrush spankings: no - hard limit (I don´t like to be ridiculed)
Hair pulling: yes - 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes - not really exciting if it is only hands...
Hand jobs (receiving): yes - quite exciting, but want something else after a while.
Harems (serving w/other subs): no - hard limit - *bites other bitches away* lol!
Harnessing (leather): no - 1
Harnessing (rope): no - 2
Having food chosen for you: no - hard limit
Having clothing chosen for you: yes - for parties; we try to find a compromise, though (if I stand before him in high heels and collar, I only get a "why would you want to wear anything more?" anyway, rolls my eyes)
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes - only like it if I like the woman allover
Head (giving fellatio): yes - 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes - liked it a lot
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: see boot-worship, those were high-heeled boots. lol
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no - does not attract me, or rather it always gets sexual with me rather quick. lol
Hot oils (on genitals): no - 0
Hot waxing: yes - 2-3
Housework (doing): boring. except having him watch when I scrub the floor on my knees half-naked, then I could almost like it.
Human puppy dog: no - not attractive to me
Humiliation (private): yes - I am exploring into that direction at present - lol!
Humiliation (public): no - might be interesting with BDSM friends around, not in general public or with vanillas around, though.
Hypnotism: no - scary, but attractive fantasy
Ice cubes: yes - with a lady once - loved that... would not want it often with a man, though, but would be willing to try.
Infantilism: no - hard limit
Initiation rites: no - (I am not sure what kind of rites in a BDSM context?)
Injections: no - I do enjoy donating blood very much, though.
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes - once - that was the guy who tickled me. I found the whole experience somewhat pointless. God damn, if I allow a man to tie me naked, he should realize I want him to touch me! shakes my head...
Interrogations: no - I feel attracted to the idea/situation, but have no idea what I would be interrogated about.
Kidnapping: no - favourite fantasy, but somewhat difficult to realize in a fun way, I guess.
Kneeling: yes - depends on the situation if I like it. I love to kneel when giving a blowjob, though.
Leather clothing: yes - yes - yes - or did I already say yes? LOL
restraints chains: yes - 3
restraints leather: yes - 3
restraints rope: yes - 3
Lectures for misbehavior: Hm. verbal lectures - NO, hard limit. Physical punishment - yes, gladly, often, 5!
Licking (non-sexual): As I said, licking always gets sexual with me.
Manacles & Irons: yes - liked it a lot - but it is uncomfortable! lol
Manicures (giving): no - does not sound exciting
Massage (giving): yes - 3
Massage (receiving): yes - 4 :-)
Medical scenes: no - no turn-on at all.

Modeling for erotic photos: would not excite me.
Modeling for erotic videos: no - hard limit
Mouth bits: no - not interesting, I guess
Mummification: no - hard limit or rather total bore
Nipple clamps: yes - 3, depends on my mood; I prefer clit clamps
Nipple cloths pins: yes - do not like clothes pins
Nipple weights: yes - did not like it very much
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes - it took me 9 years to learn to like it. *BLUSH* *BLUSH* *BLUSH*
Over-the-knee spanking: yes - it would have to be painful for me to like it. If it is only humiliating, I hate it.
Orgasm denial: no - not attractive
Orgasm control: no - I think; does "control" only stand for "not being allowed to"?
Outdoor scenes: no - would love to be in the woods once
Outdoor sex: yes - in a barley field - loved it, but need not have it again
Phone sex (serving Dom): no - doubt I could do it, I have a problem with speaking things, I rather write, and even for that I often refrain to English, which is not my mother tongue.
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no way! the lazy assholes should get their own bitches! lol
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): yes - loved it - would be willing.
Piercing (permanent): yes - had too many of them as a teenager, now I only have the tongue one left (and that is mainly to please hubby *smiles*)
Prison scenes: no - does not attract me.
Pony slave: no - hard limit
Public exposure: no - might be fun in a BDSM setting, but not in general public.
Public tasks: no - hard limit
Pussy whipping: yes - 5
Pussy worship: not sure about the meaning here
Riding crops: yes - not bad, but I SO prefer whips.
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): noyesno - have seen one, but not tried it - the idea is appealing, though.
Rituals: no - depends on the rituals, I guess
Religious scenes: no, I attended a Catholic Girls School, HARD LIMIT!!!
Restrictive rules on behavior: no - depends - I would be willing to try.
Rubber/latex clothing: yes - I hate the feeling/smell/texture of rubber, but it shapes the body so prettily. lol
Rope body harness: no - would give it a try if asked.
Saran wrapping: yes - once, overnight. It only annoyed me to be restrained. Would not want it again.
Scratching – getting: yes - 5
Scratching – giving: yes - sometimes
Sensory deprivation: yes - a bit - I loved it
Serving: no - would give it a try, I guess
Serving as art: no - sounds boring to me
Serving as ashtray: no - hard limit
Serving as furniture: no - sounds boring to me
Serving as a maid: no - I want my own maid, French costume and all! lol
Serving as toilet: no - hard limit
Serving as waitress/waiter: no - sounds boring to me
Serving orally (sexual): yes - 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no - I would not serve anyone but my husband, as I am not a very servile/docile person. One would have to earn that. Hubby did not ask for it yet.
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no - hard limit
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes, I guess? It made the following act very rewarding.
Sexual deprivation (long term): no - hard limit
Shaving (body hair): I dislike body hair on women - I remove mine - it does not stimulate me to do so, though, it is only aesthetic to me.
Shaving (head hair): The idea has a huge fascination, but I would not like the time it would take to grow back.
Shaving (pubic hair): see body hair
Sleep deprivation: no - hard limit
Sleep-sacks: no - hard limit
Slutty clothing (private): yes - can be fun
Slutty clothing (public): yes in a BDSM setting, but not in general public, unless I feel the urge to shock people.
Spanking in private: yes - liked it, as long as it is painful
Spanking in public: yes, in a BDSM setting, but not in general public
Spanking in bdsm parties: Oh, reading through first would be such a good idea... yes - 4
Spanking pleasure: I do not understand that question?
Spandex clothing: no - hard limit - absolutely not my thing, neither on me nor others.
Speech restrictions (when, what): no - hubby says if I die they will have to kill my mouth extra - might be interesting to try, though. Would most certainly be a cruel punishment for me! lol
Speculums (Anal): no - hard limit
Speculums (vaginal): no - hard limit
Spreader bars: yes - can be ok
Standing in corner: no - hard limit
Stocks (adjustable): no - not attractive
Stocks (fixed): yes - very attractive, I have some Medieval fancies. lol
Straight jackets: no - hard limit
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no - not attractive (seems pointless to me)
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no - I don´t know - the idea of getting that from a woman excites and scares me equally - I would have to like the woman a lot, mind.
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no - seems pointless to me
Strapping (full body beating): yes - liked it - with a whip, that is. Want more of it!!!
Suspension (upright); no - 0
Suspension (inverted): no - 0
Suspension (horizontal): no - 0
Supplying new partners for Dom: ??? If he gets tired of me, I would expect him to find his own new partners. no - hard limit, that is.
Swallowing semen: yes - 5
Swallowing urine: no - have been fantasizing about that - might be willing if in the proper mood (*!).
Swapping (with one other couple): no - hard limit
Swinging (multiple couples): no - hard limit (yes, I am a jealous bitch, got a problem with that? lol)
Tattooing: yes - I have mine for un-sexual reasons, though
Teasing: no - hard limit
Tickling: NO - ABSOLUTE AND VERY HARD LIMIT, DO NOT TRY IT IF YOU DO NOT WANT YOUR NOSE BROKEN.
Triple penetration: no omg
Triple penetration by 3 males: no omg
(the latter two are favourite fantasies, but I doubt I would like it r/l)
No man but my husband has touched me sexually during the last 9 years. I need to feel owned. If someone else touched me that way, I would lose the feeling of belonging, and that would do fatal damage to our relationship, I think.
Or if not that, things would not be the same for me afterwards.
If I ever got bored with him, I might consider the idea, but I am not anywhere near that point yet.
(To be really honest: I would make an exception from that rule for Vin Diesel. In return, I would not expect my hubby to be good if his favourite movie star offered herself to him. Both are unlikely to happen, though. *lol*)
Uniforms: no - the only time I fancied that was a very hot lesbian friend of mine in a police uniform - drools.
Including others: to watch - yes; to participate - only another Dom for me, and only for beatings. No touching of my privates wanted by me.
Vaginal dildo: yes - loved/hated it
Verbal humiliation: works only along with sexual/physical one, and I have to be in the mood, but then I can like it a lot;
Vibrator on genitals: no - (HONESTLY, I have close to no experience with toys of that sort)
Voyeurism (watching others): I like to watch other people play, but not have sex
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Men watch all the time anyway *shrugs* lol.
Or does it mean: Me watching my Dom playing with others? That happens over my rotten corpse. Jealous bitch, as I said.
Video (watching others): All amateur films I saw were horribly bad with ugly people - so no thanks, I´ll pass.
Video (recordings of you): no - hard limits, mainly because you never know where those might end up!
Water torture: no - being pushed underwater is a hard limit.
Wearing symbolic jewelry: I wear my collar and an ankle chain all the time, I am not fond of other jewellery (yes, I know, unusual for a woman)
Whipping: yes - 5
Wooden paddles: no - not attractive to me
Wrestling: I like to be overwhelmed, and get not anywhere enough of that. But given hubby´s size, the fight would not last longer than a minute, anyway. lol

[Stone]

Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 5 nothing like rough anal sex
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large):yes 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): hmmm yes 3
Animal roles:no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):no 0
Asphyxiation:yes 5
Auctioned for charity:no 0
Bathroom use control:no 2
Bestiality:no hard limit
Beating (soft):yes 5
Beating (hard):yes 5
Blindfolds:yes 3
Being serviced (sexual):yes 5
Being bitten:yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: no 3
Breath control:yes 4
Branding:no 4
Boot worship:no 0
Bondage (light): yes 3
Bondage (heavy):yes 3
Bondage (multi-day):no 1
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 2
Breast whipping:yes 4
Brown showers (scat):no hardlimit
Cages (locked inside of):no 0
Caning:yes 5
Catheterization:no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 1
Chastity belts:no 2
Chauffeuring: yes 1
Choking:yes 5
Clothespins:yes 3
Cock worship: yes 3
Collars (worn in private):yes 3
Collars (worn in public):yes 4
Competitions (with other Subs):no 3
Corsets (wearing):yes 5
Cuffs:yes 3
Cuffs (metal):yes 3
Cutting:no 4
Dilation:no
Double penetration:no depends on if toy and cock counts if that way 4
Electricity:yes 4
Enemas:yes 3
Enforced chastity:yes 3
Examinations (physical):no 0
Exercise (forced/required):no 3
Exhibitionism (friends):no 1
Exhibitionism (strangers):no 1
Eye contact restrictions:yes 2
Face slapping:yes 5
Fantasy abandonment:no 0
Fantasy rape:yes 5
Fantasy gang-rape:no 0
Fisting (anal):no 0
Fisting (vaginal):no 0
Following orders:yes 4
Foot worship:no 0
Forced dressing:no 1
Forced homosexuality:hmmm no but 4 on her of course
Forced masturbation:yes 5
Forced nudity (private):yes 4
Forced nudity (around others):no 2
Forced servitude:yes 4
Full head hoods:no 0
Gags (cloth):no 3
Gags (rubber):no 3
Gags (tape):no 3
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex:yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 0
Given away to another Dom (perm):no 0
Golden showers:yes 1
Hairbrush spankings:no 3
Hair pulling:yes 5
Hand jobs (giving):yes 4 on her of course
Hand jobs (receiving):yes 2
Harems (serving w/other subs):no 0
Harnessing (leather):no 2
Harnessing (rope):no 2
Having food chosen for you:no 0
Having clothing chosen for you:no 0
Head (giving fellatio):na
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only yes 5
High heel worship:no 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals):yes 3
Hot waxing:yes 4
Housework (doing):no 0
Human puppy dog:no 0
Humiliation (private):yes 5
Humiliation (public):yes 5
Hypnotism:no 0
Ice cubes:yes 4
Infantilism:no 0
Initiation rites:yes 2
Injections:no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:no 0
Interrogations:yes 3
Kidnapping:no 3
Kneeling:yes 3
Leather clothing:no 3
restraints:yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior:yes 4
Licking (non-sexual):no 2
Manacles & Irons:no 2
Manicures (giving):no 0
Massage (giving):yes 3
Massage (receiving):yes 3
Medical scenes:no 0
Modeling for erotic photos:no 0
Mouth bits:yes 3
Mummification:no 0
Nipple clamps:yes 4
Nipple weights:yes 3
Oral/anal play (rimming):no 1
Over-the-knee spanking:yes 4
Orgasm denial:yes 5
Orgasm control:yes 5
Outdoor scenes:no 3
Outdoor sex:no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom):na
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):no 3
Piercing (permanent):no 3
Prison scenes NO 3
Pony slave:no 0
Public exposure:no 0
Pussy/cock whipping:yes 4
Pussy worship:no 2
Riding crops:yes 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 0
Rituals:yes 3
Religious scenes:no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior:yes 3
Rubber/latex clothing:no 1
Rope body harness:no 0
Saran wrapping:no 0
Scratching – getting:yes 4
Scratching – giving:yes 5
Sensory deprivation:no 0
Serving:no o
Serving as art:no 0
Serving as ashtray:no 0
Serving as furniture:no 0
Serving as a maid:no 0
Serving as toilet:no 0
Serving as waitress/waiter:no 0
Serving orally (sexual):yes 3
Serving other Doms (supervised):no 0
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term):yes 3
Sexual deprivation (long term):no 0
Shaving (body hair):yes 4
Shaving (head hair):no 0
Sleep deprivation:no 0
Sleepsacks:no 0
Slutty clothing (private):yes 4
Slutty clothing (public):yes 3
Spanking:yes 5
Spandex clyesothing:no 0
Speech restrictions (when, what):yes 3
Speculums (Anal):no 0
Speculums (vaginal)no 0:
Spreader bars:no 2
Standing in corner:no 0
Stocks (adjustable):no 2
Straight jackets:no 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no 0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):no 0
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):no 0
Strapping (full body beating):yes 3
Suspension (upright);no 0
Suspension (inverted):no 0
Suspension (horizontal):no 0
Supplying new partners for Dom:na
Swallowing semen:her swallowing my load of course 5
Swallowing urine:no 0
Swapping (with one other couple):no 0
Swinging (multiple couples):no 0
Tattooing:no 3
Teasing:yes 5
Tickling:yes 1
Triple penetration:no 0
Uniforms:no 0
Including others:no 3
Vaginal dildo:yes 4
Verbal humiliation:yes 4
Vibrator on genitals:yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others):yes 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):na
Video (watching others):yes 3
Video (recordings of you):no 3
Water torture:no 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry:yes 3
Whipping YES 5
Wooden paddles:yes 5
Wrestling:no 2

[Sir_Russell]

not sure what to say seems that you took the sub one and I do need to work more on the Dom one. You are making it up as you go which is what we all do.

[Arria]

Aww, I worked very hard to expose myself here, and I get no reply at all?
*pouts, hoping Myst will not notice*
laughs

[Sir_Russell]

arria,
first sorry to have missed your post it is unusual to have 2 in one day, but still my fault.

Second, I must say I was surprised at your responses but then the life is very large. The important thing is that your Master is pleased with you and I believe that he is. I do appreciate the honest answers and explanations it helps my study of the life.
Being a bondage freak it all ways strikes me hard that not everyone is into it. Course I do not let a lovely such as yourself have a lot of time to think about being restrained.

Thanks for you input.

[Sir_Russell]

Ladies I just discovered your posts and will respond today after work, since I don't have enough time before work to properly analyze and comment.

A quick scan though seem to show that bathroom control is not a favorite. Remind me to tell you about my version of it may cause you to rethink.

[Wedjat]

That reminds me, I should probably re-do mine one of these days - you've given me a lot to think about : )

[Beatrice]

I'm not really looking for anything right now, just sharing.

[Sir_Russell]

cadence,
For a lady that I have been impressed with for quite some time I learned a lot about you. I think you would make a very good sub for any Dom and I think I could make you into a wonderful slave. Keys are things that you haven't done, are afraid of but willing to try and I am sure for a loved Master most of these would become favorites.

I thank you for you honesty and courage taking my list and doing it openly.

[cadence]

cadence,
For a lady that I have been impressed with for quite some time I learned a lot about you. I think you would make a very good sub for any Dom and I think I could make you into a wonderful slave. Keys are things that you haven't done, are afraid of but willing to try and I am sure for a loved Master most of these would become favorites.

I thank you for you honesty and courage taking my list and doing it openly.

Thank you Sir_Russell for the compliment.

I do hope that one day, I will be able to have the opportunity to be submissive to a Dominant, and while the word used to bother me at one point in time, I would even relish the opportunity to be a slave to someone else.
I hope as well to try more things and push my limits even further than I already have done so.

[Sir_Russell]

Beatrice,

I know very little about you now so I will make just general statements.

First I think your very new to this but have dreamed of it for some time. Second you have a tendency to be a bondage slut and that is a good thing for a lot of us, I for one am primarily a bondage Dom that grew into Life and my joy with it spread with each new skill acquired. Enjoy your journey and proceed with both caution and joy.

[Sir_Russell]

Wedjat,
Yes it is time for you to retake the list. See how many things now interest and intrigue you that only seems scary before

[rivka]

Thank you, Sir Russell.

[Wedjat]

I cut and pasted this because I'd done it a few months ago, so hopefully, I can tweak here and there. It's still gonna take a while. Some of the things I rate low may be because I've never done them, and they don't sound appealing, but, like you said, it's subject to change. One thing, on some issues about gags and things of that sort, I rate low because (a) I broke my nose when I was 5 , and (b) I've also had sinus issues and surgery on them a couple of times. I don't get sinus infections like I once did, but I really don't get as much air through my schnozz as I would like sometimes, either. Having something in my mouth with no ability to take it out really scares the crap out of me because of that. It's probably partly mental, since I don't like getting dunked either, (really freaked out a boyfriend in high school once, when I came up screaming after what he considered a playful dunk - I didn't know I'd react like that either, though.) Also, I don't think sounding like Felix Unger from the Odd Couple would be very sexy.

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners. I started to do this, but I probably wouldn't do much of this with somebody I didn't know pretty well.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no 1
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: yes 5 Sir, your comments about safety on this one were greatly appreciated
Anal plugs (small): yes 3 only tried once
Anal plugs (large): no 2 worries me a bit : )
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 3 sounds interesting
Animal roles: no 1 I'd feel damned silly
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation: no 1 depends on how it's done, I've heard some about it, but not breathing is a serious issue for me - see above comments.
Auctioned for charity: no 1
Bathroom use control: no 2-3 this is one I upgraded a bit, after you described how you go about it
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): no 1
Beating (hard): no no
Blindfolds: yes 2-3 only did this once, but it was interesting, don't think I'd want it all the time - I'm a pretty visual person.
Being serviced (sexual): no 4
Being bitten: yes 5 surprised me that I like this as much as I do, to the point of leaving marks
Breast/chest bondage: yes 3 only once, not sure if I liked it at the time, but certainly was interesting . Don't think having them turn purple & fall off would be in anybody's best interest : ) .
Breath control: no 1
Branding: * no 3 had a fantasy about this -certainly not for casual though
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): * yes 5 knew I could get out of it, if need be.
Bondage (heavy): * no 3
Bondage (multi-day): * no 1 this doesn't sound like much fun at all, actually
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 3 could see where this would be interesting
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 2 - maybe, not hard
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of):* no 3 I can see where this could be interesting too
Caning: no 2 - not really that much into pain
Catheterization: no no (only once when I had my c-section -hurt like hell!)
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 1 I could see a cell, maybe, but not a closet
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: no 1
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 3-4 this is one I upgraded
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 3 ditto - less thrilled with this idea than the nipple clamps though
Clothespins body: no 1
Cock worship: no 3-4
Collars (worn in private): no 5
Collars (worn in public): no 2-3 depends on the collar - I upgraded this one a bit too
Competitions (with other Subs): no no
Corsets (wearing): yes 4-5 (only as a pirate, for now, on outside of clothes. Really like this idea though.
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): no 4
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no 1
Double penetration: no 4- 5 (I have fantasies about this one : )
Electricity: yes 3 violet wand, only a couple of times - interesting, not a huge turn on - has possibilities though
Enemas: no 1 (not counting medicinal purposes as a kid)
Enforced chastity: no 3 could see it if it's not TOO long : )
Examinations (physical): no 3-4
Exercise (forced/required): no 2 I know, I know, I want to get to the gym, but I'd rather do it on my own
Exhibitionism (friends): no 2-3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 1
Eye contact restrictions: no 1
Face slapping: no no - no, I would leave - not into abuse
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: no 2
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3-4 (I have finally figured out how to do that ; )
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no no - I'd leave from this one too
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 2-3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 2
Fisting (anal): no no - I have see pics of what this can do to a person - it ain't pretty
Fisting (vaginal): no 1 (seems counterproductive- I had a c-section for my daughter, and have always been rather happy that it wasn't all stretched out of shape. Things can TEAR down there!)
Flogging: yes 3 liked lightly, heavier not so much
Following hand signals: no 2-3 , not really sure if I'd like this or not
Following orders: yes 3 depends
Foot worship: no 1
Forced dressing: no 2-3 depends
Forced homosexuality: no no - so NOT going to happen. Again, major deal breaker for me.
Forced masturbation: no 3-4
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 2 depends on situation, I guess.
Forced servitude: no 1 depends, not wild about it
Full head hoods: no 2 - I DO so like to breath
Gags (cloth): no 1
Gags (penis shaped): no 1
Gags (rubber): no 1
Gags (tape): no 1
Gates of Hell: no n/a
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 1 have to think about this one
Given away to another Domme (temp): no no
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals: no 2 -4 , not sure since I've never done it, but I've upgraded this one a bit
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no no not gonna happen
Harnessing (leather): no 4
Harnessing (rope): no 3-4
Having food chosen for you: no 1- having the dom do the ordering, after I'd picked something at a restaurant I can see, but I'm a pretty picky eater.
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2-3
Head (giving cunnilingus): no no again, SO not gonna happen
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no N/A
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 2-3 not real certain about this one, sounds ok though
Hot oils (on genitals): no 3 - um, how hot are we talking here? Might be interesting, just don't know
Hot waxing: no 1
Housework (doing): yes 1 do enough already : )
Human puppy dog: no no - the feminist in me rebels
Humiliation (private): no no (my ex was very critical of, well, a ot of things. This really doesn't do much for me
Hypnotism: no 3-4 (you explained this one to me, sounds very interesting the way you do it !)
Ice cubes: no 3
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 3 depends, I guess
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 1
Kidnapping: no 3 I can see that this could be kind of fun
Kneeling: yes 3-4
Leather clothing: yes 3 (just my pirate corset, would like more)
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: no 4
restraints rope: yes 4 once
Lectures for misbehavior: no 1 - does anybody LIKE this? I just don't see it
Licking (non-sexual): no 4
Manacles & Irons: no 4
Manicures (giving): no 1 ?
Massage (giving): yes 5 not always sexual, but nice too
Massage (receiving): yes 5 My teenager won't stand near me when I sit in one of the massage chairs at the mall because I "make too much noise" : ) You just can't get too many massages, sexual or not, in my opinion - our version of primate grooming, I think
Medical scenes: no 3
Modeling for erotic photos: no 2
Modeling for erotic videos: no 2 mostly just worried about either of this or the last one getting into wrong hands
Mouth bits: no 1
Mummification: no 1
Nipple clamps: no 3-4 might like them a lot, but never tried them.
Nipple cloths pins: no 3-4 ditto
Nipple weights: no 1-2 still pretty dang perky - especially for my age -don't really want to help gravity any more than necessary
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 4-5 not in a long time
Over-the-knee spanking: no 4-5 (I had this rated lower, but I've read about your "pleasure spankings')
Orgasm denial: no 3-4
Orgasm control: no 4-5 This was rated lower before too, but again, I've read some of your comments about it - makes a lot more sense!
Outdoor scenes: no 3-4
Outdoor sex: yes 4 not since a teenager though. it was fun then!
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 2-3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 1 not sure I could do this
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 1 ow
Piercing (permanent): no 1 again, ow! depends
Prison scenes: no 1
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: no 1
Public tasks: no 1 again, depends
Pussy/cock whipping: no 2, not hard though
Pussy worship: no n/a
Riding crops: no 2 not sure on this one either
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 3 -4 depends on how it's done and who's doing it
Rituals: no 2-3
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 1-3 again, depends
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3 never done it, might be good, might chafe : )
Rope body harness: yes, once 3
Saran wrapping: no 1-3 just can't quite get behind this one
Scratching – getting: yes 3 some, lightly
Scratching – giving: yes, 3 need fake nails though *sigh*
Sensory deprivation: no 2 other than blindfold, not sure
Serving: no ? is this a heading for what follows, or a description on it's own?
Serving as art: no 1 I'd feel really silly
Serving as ashtray: no no- not in this lifetime
Serving as furniture: no 1 - really doubt it
Serving as a maid: no 1 - doesn't being a mom count? : )
Serving as toilet: no no, oh HELL no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2 - again, done enough of that as a mom : )
Serving orally (sexual): yes (if I understand this ) 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 4 Have fantasies about more than one fella (not bi-curious at all, sorry).
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 2 not quite sure how this would work,
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1 -Does the 5 year dry spell I had at the end of my marriage and after count towards good behavior?
Shaving (body hair): yes, 3-4 never done this sexually though
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4 Not done to me, I trim up a bit
Sleep deprivation: no no I have enough of that as it is : )
Sleep-sacks: no 1 I just can't quite picture this one as being much fun
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 3 depends on where, I spose, and whether people I work with would see me, or family
Spanking in private: yes 4
Spanking in public: no 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 1 never been to one, so I have no clue
Spanking pleasure: yes 3 - although your description of a pleasure spanking sounds like a definite 5
Spandex clothing: no 2 just my gym shorts. I'm in pretty good shape for my age, but not sure it's a good idea on a 53 y.o. body : )
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 1 having trouble even picturing this one
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): yes 2 not for fun, just the yearly checkup
Spreader bars: no 3-4
Standing in corner: no 1
Stocks (adjustable): no 3-4
Stocks (fixed): no 2-3
Straight jackets: no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 1 I'd feel silly
Strapping (full body beating): - no 1
Suspension (upright); no 2 -4 I'm assuming, off the floor? depends on how it's done
Suspension (inverted): no 2 - not sure my sinuses would make this a very sexy experience for anybody : )
Suspension (horizontal): no 3-4 depends, I guess, again, how and who
Supplying new partners for Dom: no no
Swallowing semen: yes 3 been a while, though
Swallowing urine: no no - again, hell no
Swapping (with one other couple): no 1 thinking about it, really not sure
Swinging (multiple couples): no 1 -see above
Tattooing: no 3 none on me, but it can be kind of sexy
Teasing: no 3 well, depends
Tickling: yes 3, again, not since a teenager
Triple penetration: no 5 fantasy land again, never done it
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 5 same as above
Uniforms: no 2
Including others: no 5 never done it, so it might be better or worse than my fantasies
Vaginal dildo: no 4
Verbal humiliation: no no
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5 - not much though
Voyeurism (watching others): no 1
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 1
Video (watching others): no 2 might be ok
Video (recordings of you): no 1, again , nervous about who sees it
Water torture: no 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 4
Whipping: no 3 light flogging ok,
Wooden paddles: yes 3, stings a bit - makes me jumpy
Wrestling: no 3 well, maybe as a teenager : )

[DowntownAmber]

The one for sub/slaves

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no: I would need to know more of what this entails before answering accurately, it's not something I'm especially familiar with.
Age play: yes: 1
Anal sex: yes: 4: love the idea, and love the limited experience I've had but it is something that becomes very painful for me very quickly, so I am thinking it will take some time...
Anal plugs (small): no: not sure until I try, but I am anticipating a 4
Anal plugs (large): no: 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no: 4
Animal roles: no: 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no: 4
Asphyxiation: yes: 3: I am probably overlapping this with breath control, perhaps I am not 100% positive of the differences
Auctioned for charity: no: sexy fantasy, but how far would it go? 2
Bathroom use control: no: 2
Bestiality: no: no
Beating (soft): yes: 5
Beating (hard): yes: 4: the cane was a little much at first, but it caused quite the "high" for a time
Blindfolds: yes: 3
Being serviced (sexual): yes: 3
Being bitten: yes: 3
Breast/chest bondage: no: 3
Breath control: yes: 4
Branding: no: 2: VERY erotic idea, but the reality is still frightening
Boot worship: no: 1
Bondage (light): yes: 5
Bondage (heavy): yes: 5
Bondage (multi-day): no: 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): no: 5
Bondage and Sex: yes: 5
Breast whipping: yes: 4
Brown showers (scat): no: no
Cages (locked inside of): no: 2
Caning: yes: 3: this would be a four because I do very much enjoy it when I hit a particular pain "high," but I know to expect that level of response on a regular basis would be unrealistic
Catheterization: no: no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no: 2
Chastity belts: no: 4
Chauffeuring: no: again, not sure how this would play out, but 3
Choking: yes: 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes: 5: Mmmm...
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes: 3: I like this, but it gets very painful very quickly and I lose focus as a result
Clothespins body: yes: 3
Cock worship: yes: 4
Collars (worn in private): yes: 5
Collars (worn in public): yes, but under clothes: 5: LOVE to have J-Go's "mark" on me
Competitions (with other Subs): no: 0
Corsets (wearing): yes: 3
Cuffs: yes: 4
Cuffs (metal): yes: 4
Cutting: no: 3: very erotic idea, but the 3 may change after experiencing
Dilation: no: 0
Double penetration: no: 3
Electricity: no: 2
Enemas: no: 0
Enforced chastity: yes: 4: I love the discipline of this, love the orgasms afterward
Examinations (physical): yes: 2
Exercise (forced/required): no: 2
Exhibitionism (friends): no: 1
Exhibitionism (strangers): no: 0
Eye contact restrictions: yes: 4
Face slapping: yes: 4
Fantasy abandonment: no: 1
Fantasy rape: no: 1
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes: 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking:
Fantasy forced rape anal: no: 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no: no
Fisting (anal): no: no
Fisting (vaginal): no: no
Flogging: yes: 5: big fan, mmm.
Following hand signals: no: 3
Following orders: yes: 5
Foot worship: no: 1
Forced dressing: yes: 4
Forced homosexuality: no: 1
Forced masturbation: yes: 4
Forced nudity (private): yes: 5
Forced nudity (around others): no: 1
Forced servitude: no: 3
Full head hoods: no: 2
Gags (cloth): yes: 4
Gags (penis shaped): no: 4
Gags (rubber): yes: 4
Gags (tape): yes: 3
Gates of Hell: not even sure what this one is.
Genital sex: yes: 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): no: I like the idea, but can't think of anyone yet that I or my Dom would trust? 3 under the right circumstances.
Given away to another Domme (temp): no: 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): no: no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no: no
Golden showers: no: no
Greetings rituals: yes: 5: adore the ritual of greeting
Hairbrush spankings: yes: 4: Hell, spankings of most sorts!
Hair pulling: yes: 5: can there be a 6 for this?
Hand jobs (giving): yes: 4
Hand jobs (receiving): yes: 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no: 0/1: I really like being the center of my Dom's attention
Harnessing (leather): no: 4
Harnessing (rope): yes: 4
Having food chosen for you: yes: 4: perhaps this is not what this is referring to, but I adore when my Dom selects dinner or even the drinks/wine
Having clothing chosen for you: yes: 4
Head (giving cunnilingus):
Head (giving fellatio): yes: 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes: 5: this was barely a 3 before meeting my Dom
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship:
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no: 2
Hot oils (on genitals): yes: 3
Hot waxing: yes: 4
Housework (doing): no: my Dom and I don't live together, so I'm sure this will change when it applys to us
Human puppy dog: no: 0
Humiliation (private): yes: 4
Humiliation (public): yes: 0
Hypnotism: no: 2
Ice cubes: yes: 3
Infantilism: no: 0
Initiation rites: no: 3
Injections: no: no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes: 4
Interrogations: no: 2
Kidnapping: no: 2
Kneeling: yes: 4
Leather clothing: no: 2
restraints chains: no: 4
restraints leather: yes: 4
restraints rope: yes: 4
Lectures for misbehavior: yes: 4: not that I like to or try to misbehave, but I rate this a 4 because when I need to be talked to, well, I need to be talked to
Licking (non-sexual): can licking BE non sexual? ;o)
Manacles & Irons: no: 4
Manicures (giving): no: 2
Massage (giving): yes: 4
Massage (receiving): yes: 4
Medical scenes: no: 0
Modeling for erotic photos: yes: 4
Modeling for erotic videos: no: 4
Mouth bits: no: 4
Mummification: no: 2
Nipple clamps: yes: 5: mmmm...
Nipple cloths pins: yes: 5
Nipple weights: no: 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes: 3
Over-the-knee spanking: yes: 5
Orgasm denial: yes: 4
Orgasm control: yes: 5
Outdoor scenes: yes: 3
Outdoor sex: yes: 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): no: 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no: 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no: 2
Piercing (permanent): no: 2
Prison scenes: no: 2
Pony slave: no: 0
Public exposure: no: 1
Public tasks: yes: 4
Pussy/cock whipping: yes: 4
Pussy worship:
Riding crops: yes: 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no: not totally sure what this is yet.
Rituals: yes: 5
Religious scenes: no: 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes: 4
Rubber/latex clothing: no: 2
Rope body harness: no: 4
Saran wrapping: no: 2
Scratching – getting: yes: 2
Scratching – giving: yes: 2
Sensory deprivation: no: sounds interesting, but I would have to try before rating
Serving: yes: 4
Serving as art: no: need more specifics
Serving as ashtray: no: 0
Serving as furniture: no: 0
Serving as a maid: no: 2
Serving as toilet: no: no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no: 2
Serving orally (sexual): no to anyone other than my Dom, serving my Dom, however? BIG 5.
Serving other Doms (supervised): no: erotic idea, but there would have to be HUGE trust in place, even supervised.
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no: no
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes: 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no: 2
Shaving (body hair): yes: 3
Shaving (head hair): no: 0
Shaving (pubic hair): yes: 4
Sleep deprivation: no: 0
Sleep-sacks: no: 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes: 4
Slutty clothing (public): yes: 2
Spanking in private: yes: 5
Spanking in public: no: 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no: 3
Spanking pleasure: yes: 4
Spandex clothing: no: 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes: 4
Speculums (Anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader bars: yes: 4
Standing in corner: yes: 4: I love the anticipation of standing and waiting and listening as my Dom "gets ready" and not knowing quite what he's up to as I'm facing the wall.
Stocks (adjustable): no: 3
Stocks (fixed): no: 3
Straight jackets: no: 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no: 1
Strapping (full body beating): yes: 4
Suspension (upright); no: 3
Suspension (inverted): no: 3
Suspension (horizontal): no: 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: no: 0
Swallowing semen: yes: 4
Swallowing urine: no: no
Swapping (with one other couple): no: no
Swinging (multiple couples): no: no
Tattooing: no: 0
Teasing: yes: 4
Tickling: yes: 2
Triple penetration: no: 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: no: no
Uniforms: no: 3
Including others: no: 2
Vaginal dildo: yes: 3
Verbal humiliation: yes: 4
Vibrator on genitals: yes: 4
Voyeurism (watching others): no: 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no: 1
Video (watching others): yes: 3
Video (recordings of you): no: 3
Water torture: no: 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no: 4
Whipping: yes: 4
Wooden paddles: no: 4
Wrestling: yes: 4

I'm sure my answers will change over the next few months, but this is a great place to start. Thank you, Sir Russell.

[J-Go]

Abrasion: no 1
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 5 huge turn on - only if sub is willing
Anal plugs (small):no 4
Anal plugs (large): no 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 5
Animal roles:no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation:no 3
Auctioned for charity:no 3
Bathroom use control:no 0
Bestiality:NO
Beating (soft):yes 4
Beating (hard):yes 4
Blindfolds:yes 4
Being serviced (sexual):yes 5
Being bitten:yes 3
Breast/chest bondage:no 3
Breath control:yes 4
Branding:NO
Boot worship:no 1
Bondage (light):yes 3
Bondage (heavy):yes 5
Bondage (multi-day):no 3
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 4
Bondage and Sex:yes 6
Breast whipping:yes 4
Brown showers (scat):NO
Cages (locked inside of):no 3
Caning:yes 4
Catheterization:NO
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 3
Chastity belts:no 3
Chauffeuring:no 4
Choking:kind of 3
Clothespins breast/nipples:yes 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 5
Cock worship: yes 4
Collars (worn in private):yes 5
Collars (worn in public):yes 5 +
Competitions (with other Subs):no 3
Corsets (wearing):no 1
Cuffs:no 4
Cuffs (metal):no 4
Cutting: no 0
Dilation:no ??
Double penetration:no 5
Electricity:no 3
Enemas:NO
Enforced chastity: no 3
Examinations (physical):no 2
Exercise (forced/required):no 2
Exhibitionism (friends):no 3
Exhibitionism (strangers):no 3
Eye contact restrictions:yes 3
Face slapping:yes 4
Fantasy abandonment:no 2
Fantasy rape:no 4
Fantasy forced deep throat:yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking:no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal:no 3
Fantasy gang-rape:as a fantasy 5 in reality NO
Fisting (anal):NO
Fisting (vaginal):NO
Flogging:yes 4
Following hand signals:no 3
Following orders:yes 5
Foot worship:No 1
Forced dressing:yes 4
Forced homosexuality:again she would have to be willing girl on girl oh yea 5
Forced masturbation: yes t
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others):no 3
Forced servitude:no 4
Full head hoods:no 2
Gags (cloth):yes 3
Gags (penis shaped):no 4
Gags (rubber): yes 3
Gags (tape): yes 3
Gates of Hell:???
Genital sex:yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 1
Given away to another Domme (temp):no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm):NO
Given away to another Domme (perm):NO
Golden showers:NO
Greetings rituals:I like this idea hmmmmm
Hairbrush spankings:yes 5
Hair pulling:yes 5
Hand jobs (giving):yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving):yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs):no but as a fantasy I'd have to give this a 5
Harnessing (leather):no 4
Harnessing (rope):yes 4
Having food chosen for you:yes 3
Having clothing chosen for you:yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus):yeees 5
Head (giving fellatio):love to get it
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):
Head (receiving fellatio male only):yes 5
High heel worship:no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):why?
Hot oils (on genitals):
Hot waxing:yes 4
Housework (doing):no it would be nice!
Human puppy dog:NO
Humiliation (private):yes 4
Humiliation (public):yes 4
Hypnotism:no 1
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism:NO
Initiation rites:no 3
Injections:NO
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 4
Interrogations:no 4
Kidnapping:no 4
Kneeling:yes 4
Leather clothing:no 4
restraints chains:no 5
restraints leather:yes 5
restraints rope:yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior:yes 3
Licking (non-sexual):again why?
Manacles & Irons:no 5
Manicures (giving):no 1
Massage (giving):yes 4
Massage (receiving):yes 4
Medical scenes:no 1

Modeling for erotic photos:yes 5
Modeling for erotic videos:no 5
Mouth bits:no 4
Mummification:no 0
Nipple clamps:yes 5
Nipple cloths pins:yes 5
Nipple weights:no 4
Oral/anal play (rimming):yes 5 (giving gotta be clean!)
Over-the-knee spanking:yes 5
Orgasm denial:yes 5
Orgasm control:yes 5
Outdoor scenes: no 4
Outdoor sex:yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom):n/a
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):no 1
Piercing (permanent):no 1
Prison scenes:no 3
Pony slave:no 0
Public exposure:no 4
Public tasks:yes 3
Pussy/cock whipping:yes 4
Pussy worship: every day!
Riding crops:yes 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 4
Rituals:no 4
Religious scenes:no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior:yes 3
Rubber/latex clothing:no 4
Rope body harness:no 4
Saran wrapping:no 3
Scratching – getting:yes 4
Scratching – giving:yes 4
Sensory deprivation:no intereting
Serving:no 4
Serving as art:no 5
Serving as ashtray:NO
Serving as furniture:no 1
Serving as a maid:no 4
Serving as toilet:NO
Serving as waitress/waiter:no 4
Serving orally (sexual):yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised):no 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):NO
Sexual deprivation (short term):yes 3
Sexual deprivation (long term):no 0
Shaving (body hair):no 1
Shaving (head hair):no 0
Shaving (pubic hair):yes 5
Sleep deprivation:NO
Sleep-sacks:no 0
Slutty clothing (private):yes 5
Slutty clothing (public):yes 3 if I am there. If not NO!
Spanking in private:yes 5
Spanking in public:no 4
Spanking in bdsm parties:hmmmm
Spanking pleasure:yes 5
Spandex clothing:no 3
Speech restrictions (when, what):yes 4
Speculums (Anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader bars:yes 5
Standing in corner:yes 5
Stocks (adjustable):no
Stocks (fixed):no
Straight jackets:no
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no 4 (see girl on girl)
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):no R
Strapping (full body beating):yes R
Suspension (upright);no 4
Suspension (inverted):no 4
Suspension (horizontal):no 4
Supplying new partners for Dom:would have to be a very special trusting thing with my Pets full OK otherwise NO
Swallowing semen:yes 3
Swallowing urine:NO
Swapping (with one other couple):no 2
Swinging (multiple couples):NO
Tattooing:no 0
Teasing:yes 3
Tickling:yes 2
Triple penetration:no 5
Triple penetration by 3 males:again nice fantasy but no 1
Uniforms:yes love the little school girl
Including others:no 4
Vaginal dildo:yes 4
Verbal humiliation:yes 4
Vibrator on genitals:yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others):no 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):na
Video (watching others):yes 4
Video (recordings of you):no 5
Water torture:no 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry:no 4
Whipping:yes 5
Wooden paddles:yes 5
Wrestling:No 0

[Sir_Russell]

good J-Go,
I think the two of you will do well together but seeing as both of your answers tell me your new to the life be careful.

Plan out your scenes and plan out what to do if anything goes wrong. That means each time something could go wrong you have at hand and in mind what to do to fix or relieve the problem.

Compare both of your lists and then talk

[BrownGrizzly]

Hi Sir Russell..

just writing to say many thanks for the list .. it certainly has given me lots of things to think about... have only stumbled on this eye opening lifestyle and i have filled out your list in private ..will look at it again in a few months and see if it changes and if i have settled into a realisation of what i want....

but also discovered that i have done several of those things before in vanilla .. just didn;t know that it was classed as bdsm... er they are

Anal sex: yes
Anal plugs (small): yes
Blindfolds: yes
Being serviced (sexual): yes (both giving and reciving)
Being bitten: yes (both giving and reciving)
Bondage (light): yes
Cuffs: Yes (the fluffy pink ones )
Hair pulling: Yes
Head (receiving fellatio): yes
Ice cubes: yes
Over-the-knee spanking: yes
Outdoor sex: yes
Shaving (body hair): yes (pubic hair)
Slutty clothing (private): yes
Spanking: yes 5
Vaginal dildo: yes

it seems that maybe i was on the path all along, but just didn't realise it .. but i was wondering .. is there a difference when doing these things in a 'dom / sub way' versus 'in a vanilla way'

thanks

brown grizzly

[Ozme52]

Well BG, it's not so much that some of these things are necessarily classed as bdsm... unless you are commanding your partner do them. That's about the power exchange.

There is certainly nothing special (per se) about vaginal dildos... unless your partner does it specifically upon request.

My girl never owned one but bought one and brought it with her to our last rendezvous, at my request/command. I used it on her and verbalized my thoughts, ideas, and pleasure at bringing her off with it. Alternately fucked her and fucked her with the dildo... now, at home, when I direct her to use it and how... it's as if I'm there with her and her orgasms with it are exceptionally intense. THAT's the D/s... not the dildo itself.

Don't forget... the puritans amongst us, (well, not us,) would classify the doggie position as perverse. LOL

It's a great tool though, the list. Expecially when you get to compare yours to your partner's list. That alone can be very sensual. Especially if you make your submissive relate theirs outloud to you. Or if the dominant forces the submissive to sit and listen to all the things he will do to her from his list.

Yeah... I think I'll have to dig ours out and update them next time we're together.

[BrownGrizzly]

now, at home, when I direct her to use it and how... it's as if I'm there with her and her orgasms with it are exceptionally intense. THAT's the D/s... not the dildo itself.

[Sir_Russell]

your welcome BrownGrizzly. I did not make this list I just added to it to make it more complete.
Oz is right though it isn't any tool or specific act that makes you part of the Life but the attitude and power exchange that happens.

I can ask mine sweetly and she knows it is a command and that makes her wet. I can look at her and watch her know she is in trouble or watch her melt for me. All without saying anything.

[jan]

This seemed like a good way to re-introduce myself! Here goes.
NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).


Abrasion:no 5
Age play:yes 5
Anal sex:no 2
Anal plugs (small):no 2
Anal plugs (large):no 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 2
Animal roles:no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):no 1
Asphyxiation:no no
Auctioned for charity:no 3
Bathroom use control:no 1
Bestiality:no 2
Beating (soft):no 4
Beating (hard):no 3
Blindfolds:yes 3
Being serviced (sexual):yes 2
Being bitten:yes 4
Breast/chest bondage:yes 4
Breath control:no 1
Branding:no 5
Boot worship:no 1
Bondage (light):no 4
Bondage (heavy):no 5
Bondage (multi-day):no 4
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 4
Bondage and Sex:no 5
Breast whipping:no 5
Brown showers (scat):no no
Cages (locked inside of):no 1
Caning:no 5
Catheterization:no 3
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 2
Chastity belts:no 3
Chauffeuring:no 1
Choking:no 1
Clothespins breast/nipples:yes 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit:yes 3
Clothespins body:yes 3
Cock worship:yes 3
Collars (worn in private):no 3
Collars (worn in public):no 3
Competitions (with other Subs):no 4
Corsets (wearing):no 3
Cuffs:no 3
Cuffs (metal):no 3
Cutting:no 5
Dilation:no 5
Double penetration:no 4
Electricity:no 5
Enemas:yes 3
Enforced chastity:no 3
Examinations (physical):no 5
Exercise (forced/required):no 5
Exhibitionism (friends):no 4
Exhibitionism (strangers):no 5
Eye contact restrictions:no 3
Face slapping:no 3
Fantasy abandonment:no 1
Fantasy rape:no 5
Fantasy forced deep throat:no 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking:no 4
Fantasy forced rape anal:no 5
Fantasy gang-rape:no 5
Fisting (anal):no 1
Fisting (vaginal):no 2
Flogging:no 5
Following hand signals:no 1
Following orders:no 1
Foot worship:no 2
Forced dressing:no 3
Forced homosexuality:no 3
Forced masturbation:no 4
Forced nudity (private):no 5
Forced nudity (around others):no 5
Forced servitude:no 3
Full head hoods:no 2
Gags (cloth):no 1
Gags (penis shaped):no 2
Gags (rubber):no 1
Gags (tape):no 1
Gates of Hell:n/a
Genital sex:yes 3
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp):no 2
Given away to another Dom (perm):no 1
Given away to another Domme (perm):no 1
Golden showers:no no
Greetings rituals:no 1
Hairbrush spankings:no 1
Hair pulling:no 1
Hand jobs (giving):yes 2
Hand jobs (receiving):n/a
Harems (serving w/other subs):no 3
Harnessing (leather):no 1
Harnessing (rope):no 1
Having food chosen for you:yes 1
Having clothing chosen for you:no 3
Head (giving cunnilingus):no 3
Head (giving fellatio):yes 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):yes 2
Head (receiving fellatio male only):n/a
High heel worship:no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):no 2
Hot oils (on genitals):no 4
Hot waxing:no 5
Housework (doing):no 2
Human puppy dog:no 1
Humiliation (private):no 1
Humiliation (public):no 1
Hypnotism:no 1
Ice cubes:no 3
Infantilism:no 1
Initiation rites:no 4
Injections:no 5
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:no 4
Interrogations:no 5
Kidnapping:no 4
Kneeling:no 4
Leather clothing:no 4
restraints chains:no 4
restraints leather:no 4
restraints rope:no 4
Lectures for misbehavior:no 3
Licking (non-sexual):no 3
Manacles & Irons:no 5
Manicures (giving):no 1
Massage (giving):yes 3
Massage (receiving):yes 2
Medical scenes:no 5

Modeling for erotic photos:no 5
Modeling for erotic videos:no 5
Mouth bits:no 3
Mummification:no 2
Nipple clamps:yes 4
Nipple cloths pins:yes 4
Nipple weights:yes 4
Oral/anal play (rimming):no 2
Over-the-knee spanking:no 2
Orgasm denial:no 1
Orgasm control:no 2
Outdoor scenes:no 4
Outdoor sex:no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom):no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):no 4
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):yes 5
Piercing (permanent):no 5
Prison scenes:no 5
Pony slave:no 2
Public exposure:no 3
Public tasks:no 3
Pussy/cock whipping:no 5
Pussy worship:no 2
Riding crops:no 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 5
Rituals:no 5
Religious scenes:no 5
Restrictive rules on behavior:no 2
Rubber/latex clothing:no 1
Rope body harness:no 2
Saran wrapping:no 1
Scratching – getting:no 4
Scratching – giving:no 1
Sensory deprivation:no 1
Serving:no 1
Serving as art:no 3
Serving as ashtray:no 5
Serving as furniture:no 3
Serving as a maid:no 4
Serving as toilet:no no
Serving as waitress/waiter:no 1
Serving orally (sexual):yes 4
Serving other Doms (supervised):no 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):no 4
Sexual deprivation (short term):no 2
Sexual deprivation (long term):no 1
Shaving (body hair):no 5
Shaving (head hair):no no
Shaving (pubic hair):no 5
Sleep deprivation:no no
Sleep-sacks:no 1
Slutty clothing (private):no 5
Slutty clothing (public):no 5
Spanking in private:no 2
Spanking in public:no 1
Spanking in bdsm parties:no 3
Spanking pleasure:no 2
Spandex clothing:no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what):no 1
Speculums (Anal):no 2
Speculums (vaginal):no 5
Spreader bars:no 5
Standing in corner:no 1
Stocks (adjustable):no 4
Stocks (fixed):no 4
Straight jackets:no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):no 1
Strapping (full body beating):no 4
Suspension (upright);no 4
Suspension (inverted):no 5
Suspension (horizontal):no 4
Supplying new partners for Dom:no 2
Swallowing semen:yes 5
Swallowing urine:no no
Swapping (with one other couple):no 2
Swinging (multiple couples):no 2
Tattooing:no 4
Teasing:no 2
Tickling:no 2
Triple penetration:no 2
Triple penetration by 3 males:no 3
Uniforms:no 2
Including others:no 1
Vaginal dildo: yes 4
Verbal humiliation:no 2
Vibrator on genitals:no 4
Voyeurism (watching others):no 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):no 2
Video (watching others):no 3
Video (recordings of you):no 4
Water torture:no 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry:no 3
Whipping:no 5
Wooden paddles:no 4
Wrestling:no 2

[Sir_Russell]

Jan,
I would say at this point your more of a bottom then a sub yet some of your answers lead me to believe that you could become a good sub. It is probably that you seem to have little real life experience and so many things scare you.

[wingsofanangel]

I thought it was time I revisted this thread and took this quiz again. Its almost been a year since I last took it. And I have had more experiences now... lets see whats new!


0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: 2 to 3
Age play:2
Anal sex:5
Anal plugs (small):5
Anal plugs (large):5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): 5
Animal roles: 2 to 3 because sometimes I do day dream about this a bit.
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): 4 haven't had them but would very much like them.
Asphyxiation: Did for the first time .. LOVED it. 4
Auctioned for charity: 0 I like being in a commited relationship. Though this has been a day dream of mine. Turns me on to think about it.
Bathroom use control: 3 to 4. I like the power that is held in the Dominant's hands there.
Bestiality: 0. I do daydream about it, but would never do it.
Beating (soft): 5
Beating (hard): 4
Blindfolds: 6
Being serviced (sexual): 5
Being bitten: 5
Breast/chest bondage: 5
Breath control: 4
Branding: 3 to 4
Boot worship: 2 to 3
Bondage (light): 5
Bondage (heavy): 5
Bondage (multi-day): 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): 5
Bondage and Sex: 5
Breast whipping: 5
Brown showers (scat): 0
Cages (locked inside of): 4
Caning: 4
Catheterization: 2 or 3 again used in my daydreaming
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): 3
Chastity belts: 5
Chauffeuring: 2
Choking: 3 to 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: 5
Clothespins body: 5
Cock worship: 5
Collars (worn in private): 5
Collars (worn in public): 5
Competitions (with other Subs): 2
Corsets (wearing): 5
Cuffs: 5
Cuffs (metal): 5
Cutting: 1
Dilation: 1
Double penetration: 5
Electricity: 5
Enemas: 1 to 2
Enforced chastity: 5
Examinations (physical): 4
Exercise (forced/required): 5 I hate to do it, but I LOVE the power behind it.
Exhibitionism (friends): 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): 1
Eye contact restrictions: 4
Face slapping: 4
Fantasy abandonment: 4
Fantasy rape: 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: 5
Fantasy gang-rape: 4
Fisting (anal): 4 to 5 see below
Fisting (vaginal):5 even though I know it would hurt like a b*tch!
Flogging: 4
Following hand signals: 4
Following orders: 5
Foot worship: 2
Forced dressing: 5
Forced homosexuality: 0
Forced masturbation: 5
Forced nudity (private)5:
Forced nudity (around others): 3
Forced servitude: 5
Full head hoods: 2
Gags (cloth): 5
Gags (penis shaped):5
Gags (rubber): 5
Gags (tape): 5
Gates of Hell: I don't think this applies.
Genital sex: 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): 0
Golden showers: 4
Greetings rituals: 5
Hairbrush spankings: 5
Hair pulling: 5
Hand jobs (giving): 5
Hand jobs (receiving): 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): 0
Harnessing (leather): 4
Harnessing (rope): 4
Having food chosen for you: 5
Having clothing chosen for you: 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): 0
Head (giving fellatio): 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): 0
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: n/a
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Not sure what this is.
Hot oils (on genitals): 4
Hot waxing: 3
Housework (doing): 4
Human puppy dog: 2
Humiliation (private): 5
Humiliation (public): 4
Hypnotism: not sure
Ice cubes: 4
Infantilism: 1
Initiation rites: 2
Injections: not sure what this is.
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 5
Interrogations: 4
Kidnapping: 3 to 4
Kneeling: 5
Leather clothing:5
restraints chains:5
restraints leather: 5
restraints rope: 5
Lectures for misbehavior: 4
Licking (non-sexual): 3
Manacles & Irons: 5
Manicures (giving): 3
Massage (giving): 4
Massage (receiving): 5
Medical scenes: 4

Modeling for erotic photos: 4
Modeling for erotic videos: 3
Mouth bits: 2
Mummification: 2
Nipple clamps: 5
Nipple cloths pins:5
Nipple weights: 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): 3 I have not done it, but would like to.
Over-the-knee spanking: 5
Orgasm denial: 5
Orgasm control: 5
Outdoor scenes: 4
Outdoor sex: 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): 4
Piercing (permanent): 5
Prison scenes: 4
Pony slave: 2
Public exposure:2
Public tasks: 4
Pussy/cock whipping:5
Pussy worship: n/a
Riding crops: 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): 4
Rituals: 5
Religious scenes: 4
Restrictive rules on behavior: 5
Rubber/latex clothing: 4
Rope body harness: 5
Saran wrapping:3
Scratching – getting: 4
Scratching – giving: 1 to 2
Sensory deprivation: 4
Serving: 5
Serving as art: 3
Serving as ashtray: 1
Serving as furniture: 4
Serving as a maid: 4
Serving as toilet: 4
Serving as waitress/waiter:4
Serving orally (sexual): 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): 1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): 3
Shaving (body hair): 5
Shaving (head hair): 0
Shaving (pubic hair): 5
Sleep deprivation: 1 ... i really... really.. love sleep
Sleep-sacks: 3 very interested but not sure how I feel about it.
Slutty clothing (private): 5
Slutty clothing (public): 3
Spanking in private: 5
Spanking in public: 4
Spanking in bdsm parties: 4
Spanking pleasure:5
Spandex clothing: 1 ew... does anyone really look good in spandex???
Speech restrictions (when, what): 5
Speculums (Anal): 5
Speculums (vaginal): 5
Spreader bars: 5
Standing in corner: 4
Stocks (adjustable): 4
Stocks (fixed): 4
Straight jackets: 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): 2
Strapping (full body beating): 3
Suspension (upright); 4
Suspension (inverted): 1
Suspension (horizontal): 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: 0
Swallowing semen: 5
Swallowing urine: 3
Swapping (with one other couple): 0
Swinging (multiple couples): 0
Tattooing: 3
Teasing: 4
Tickling: 1
Triple penetration: 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: if I was into multi partner, yes. I do day dream about this.
Uniforms: 4
Including others: ?
Vaginal dildo: 4
Verbal humiliation: 4
Vibrator on genitals: 5
Voyeurism (watching others): 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): 0
Video (watching others): 5
Video (recordings of you): 3
Water torture: 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: 5
Whipping: 5
Wooden paddles: 5
Wrestling:5


Not sure how much has changed.. I need to compare.

Anya

[Warbaby1943]

I thought it was time I revisted this thread and took this quiz again. Its almost been a year since I last took it. And I have had more experiences now... lets see whats new!


0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: 2 to 3
Age play:2
Anal sex:5
Anal plugs (small):5
Anal plugs (large):5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): 5
Animal roles: 2 to 3 because sometimes I do day dream about this a bit.
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): 4 haven't had them but would very much like them.
Asphyxiation: Did for the first time .. LOVED it. 4
Auctioned for charity: 0 I like being in a commited relationship. Though this has been a day dream of mine. Turns me on to think about it.
Bathroom use control: 3 to 4. I like the power that is held in the Dominant's hands there.
Bestiality: 0. I do daydream about it, but would never do it.
Beating (soft): 5
Beating (hard): 4
Blindfolds: 6
Being serviced (sexual): 5
Being bitten: 5
Breast/chest bondage: 5
Breath control: 4
Branding: 3 to 4
Boot worship: 2 to 3
Bondage (light): 5
Bondage (heavy): 5
Bondage (multi-day): 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): 5
Bondage and Sex: 5
Breast whipping: 5
Brown showers (scat): 0
Cages (locked inside of): 4
Caning: 4
Catheterization: 2 or 3 again used in my daydreaming
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): 3
Chastity belts: 5
Chauffeuring: 2
Choking: 3 to 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: 5
Clothespins body: 5
Cock worship: 5
Collars (worn in private): 5
Collars (worn in public): 5
Competitions (with other Subs): 2
Corsets (wearing): 5
Cuffs: 5
Cuffs (metal): 5
Cutting: 1
Dilation: 1
Double penetration: 5
Electricity: 5
Enemas: 1 to 2
Enforced chastity: 5
Examinations (physical): 4
Exercise (forced/required): 5 I hate to do it, but I LOVE the power behind it.
Exhibitionism (friends): 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): 1
Eye contact restrictions: 4
Face slapping: 4
Fantasy abandonment: 4
Fantasy rape: 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: 5
Fantasy gang-rape: 4
Fisting (anal): 4 to 5 see below
Fisting (vaginal):5 even though I know it would hurt like a b*tch!
Flogging: 4
Following hand signals: 4
Following orders: 5
Foot worship: 2
Forced dressing: 5
Forced homosexuality: 0
Forced masturbation: 5
Forced nudity (private)5:
Forced nudity (around others): 3
Forced servitude: 5
Full head hoods: 2
Gags (cloth): 5
Gags (penis shaped):5
Gags (rubber): 5
Gags (tape): 5
Gates of Hell: I don't think this applies.
Genital sex: 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): 0
Golden showers: 4
Greetings rituals: 5
Hairbrush spankings: 5
Hair pulling: 5
Hand jobs (giving): 5
Hand jobs (receiving): 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): 0
Harnessing (leather): 4
Harnessing (rope): 4
Having food chosen for you: 5
Having clothing chosen for you: 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): 0
Head (giving fellatio): 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): 0
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: n/a
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Not sure what this is.
Hot oils (on genitals): 4
Hot waxing: 3
Housework (doing): 4
Human puppy dog: 2
Humiliation (private): 5
Humiliation (public): 4
Hypnotism: not sure
Ice cubes: 4
Infantilism: 1
Initiation rites: 2
Injections: not sure what this is.
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 5
Interrogations: 4
Kidnapping: 3 to 4
Kneeling: 5
Leather clothing:5
restraints chains:5
restraints leather: 5
restraints rope: 5
Lectures for misbehavior: 4
Licking (non-sexual): 3
Manacles & Irons: 5
Manicures (giving): 3
Massage (giving): 4
Massage (receiving): 5
Medical scenes: 4

Modeling for erotic photos: 4
Modeling for erotic videos: 3
Mouth bits: 2
Mummification: 2
Nipple clamps: 5
Nipple cloths pins:5
Nipple weights: 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): 3 I have not done it, but would like to.
Over-the-knee spanking: 5
Orgasm denial: 5
Orgasm control: 5
Outdoor scenes: 4
Outdoor sex: 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): 4
Piercing (permanent): 5
Prison scenes: 4
Pony slave: 2
Public exposure:2
Public tasks: 4
Pussy/cock whipping:5
Pussy worship: n/a
Riding crops: 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): 4
Rituals: 5
Religious scenes: 4
Restrictive rules on behavior: 5
Rubber/latex clothing: 4
Rope body harness: 5
Saran wrapping:3
Scratching – getting: 4
Scratching – giving: 1 to 2
Sensory deprivation: 4
Serving: 5
Serving as art: 3
Serving as ashtray: 1
Serving as furniture: 4
Serving as a maid: 4
Serving as toilet: 4
Serving as waitress/waiter:4
Serving orally (sexual): 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): 1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): 3
Shaving (body hair): 5
Shaving (head hair): 0
Shaving (pubic hair): 5
Sleep deprivation: 1 ... i really... really.. love sleep
Sleep-sacks: 3 very interested but not sure how I feel about it.
Slutty clothing (private): 5
Slutty clothing (public): 3
Spanking in private: 5
Spanking in public: 4
Spanking in bdsm parties: 4
Spanking pleasure:5
Spandex clothing: 1 ew... does anyone really look good in spandex???
Speech restrictions (when, what): 5
Speculums (Anal): 5
Speculums (vaginal): 5
Spreader bars: 5
Standing in corner: 4
Stocks (adjustable): 4
Stocks (fixed): 4
Straight jackets: 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): 2
Strapping (full body beating): 3
Suspension (upright); 4
Suspension (inverted): 1
Suspension (horizontal): 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: 0
Swallowing semen: 5
Swallowing urine: 3
Swapping (with one other couple): 0
Swinging (multiple couples): 0
Tattooing: 3
Teasing: 4
Tickling: 1
Triple penetration: 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: if I was into multi partner, yes. I do day dream about this.
Uniforms: 4
Including others: ?
Vaginal dildo: 4
Verbal humiliation: 4
Vibrator on genitals: 5
Voyeurism (watching others): 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): 0
Video (watching others): 5
Video (recordings of you): 3
Water torture: 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: 5
Whipping: 5
Wooden paddles: 5
Wrestling:5


Not sure how much has changed.. I need to compare.

Anya

You're so exciting I wish I could remember who you are.

[Sir_Russell]

wingsofanangel
Very nice, you have really blossomed and I bet you make your Dom very proud, with the big smile that is hard to whip off his face.

[wingsofanangel]

wingsofanangel
Very nice, you have really blossomed and I bet you make your Dom very proud, with the big smile that is hard to whip off his face.

Thank you. I don't have a " Dom" persay.. just hubby... but he is happy to try much of this.


and Warbaby... please remember meee? I'm so great! Remember?!

[Warbaby1943]

Thank you. I don't have a " Dom" persay.. just hubby... but he is happy to try much of this.


and Warbaby... please remember meee? I'm so great! Remember?!

How could I ever forget you? You are great.

[wingsofanangel]

Damn straight...

Sir.

-GRIN!-

[at_your_whim]

Thought I would give it a whirl, even though I am new here, as it is a very very interesting test. You have to do some soul searching...

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners. I started to do this, but I probably wouldn't do much of this with somebody I didn't know pretty well.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no 0
Age play: yes 2
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 3
Animal roles: no no
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no? What is it
Asphyxiation: no 2*
Auctioned for charity: no 1
Bathroom use control: no 0
Bestiality: not yet 5 – working on it
Beating (soft): no no
Beating (hard): no no
Blindfolds: yes 3
Being serviced (sexual): no 3
Being bitten: no 2
Breast/chest bondage: no 2
Breath control: yes 3*
Branding: no 3* fantasy turn on but to really do it???
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): yes 5.
Bondage (heavy): no 3* too Gerald’s Game?
Bondage (multi-day): no no
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 0
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 4
Brown showers (scat): no no and again, NO
Cages (locked inside of): no 1*
Caning: no 1 – there is such a thing as too much pain
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): yes no
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: yes 3*
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 3-4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 3
Clothespins body: no 1
Cock worship: yes 3-4
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): no 2-3 depends on the collar
Competitions (with other Subs): no no
Corsets (wearing): no 1
Cuffs: yes 4
Cuffs (metal): no 2
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no ? What is this
Double penetration: yes 4- 5
Electricity: yes 3*
Enemas: no 1 unless private prep for heavy anal sex
Enforced chastity: no 2
Examinations (physical): no 1
Exercise (forced/required): no 1
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 4
Eye contact restrictions: no 1
Face slapping: no 2
Fantasy abandonment: no no no no no no
Fantasy rape: yes 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3-4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 1-4*
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 3
Fisting (anal): no 2*
Fisting (vaginal): yes 3
Flogging: yes 4
Following hand signals: no 0
Following orders: yes 4 depends
Foot worship: no 2
Forced dressing: no 2
Forced homosexuality: no 0 not forced,.
Forced masturbation: no 3
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 2-5 depends on who, I guess.
Forced servitude: no 2
Full head hoods: no no
Gags (cloth): yes no
Gags (penis shaped): no no
Gags (rubber): yes no
Gags (tape): yes no
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): yes 1 – to a man not a dom
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 1
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: yes 4
Greetings rituals: no ? again what is this
Hairbrush spankings: YES 1 - had too many as a child
Hair pulling: no 2
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no no
Harnessing (leather): no 2
Harnessing (rope): no 3-4
Having food chosen for you: no 2
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 2
Hot oils (on genitals): no 2
Hot waxing: yes 2
Housework (doing): yes 1 do enough already
Human puppy dog: no no
Humiliation (private): yes no
Ice cubes: yes 3
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 0
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 1
Kidnapping: yes 3
Kneeling: yes 2
Leather clothing: no no
restraints chains: yes 2
restraints leather: no 2
restraints rope: yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: no no
Licking (non-sexual): no 1
Manacles & Irons: no 2
Manicures (giving): no 0
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 2
Modeling for erotic photos: no 2
Modeling for erotic videos: no 2
Mouth bits: no 0
Mummification: no no
Nipple clamps: yes 3-4
Nipple cloths pins: yes 3-4
Nipple weights: no 1-3
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 4-5
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 3
Orgasm control: yes 3
Outdoor scenes: no 2
Outdoor sex: yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 4*
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 2
Piercing (permanent): no 2-5*
Prison scenes: no 2
Pony slave: no no
Public exposure: no 2
Public tasks: no 1
Pussy whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: no 1-4 Depends
Riding crops: yes 5
Riding the "horse" no ? What is this
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 1-3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 0
Saran wrapping: no 0
Scratching – getting: no 2
Scratching – giving: no 0
Sensory deprivation: yes 2-5*
Serving as art: no 0
Serving as ashtray: no no
Serving as furniture: no 1
Serving as a maid: no 2
Serving as toilet (scat): no no, oh HELL no (stole that answer, thank you)
Serving as toilet (piss) yes 4*
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 2.
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 1,
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1 –
Shaving (body hair): yes, 3-4
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4
Sleep deprivation: no no
Sleep-sacks: no no
Slutty clothing (private): yes 4
Slutty clothing (public): no 2
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 4 never been to one, so I have no clue
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 1
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: no 3-4
Standing in corner: yes 2
Stocks (adjustable): no 2
Stocks (fixed): no 2
Straight jackets: yes 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 2
Strapping (full body beating): - no 2
Suspension (upright); no 2 -4
Suspension (inverted): no 2
Suspension (horizontal): no 3-4
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: yes 4*
Swapping (with one other couple): no 2-4
Swinging (multiple couples): no 2
Tattooing: no 1
Teasing: no no
Tickling: yes no
Triple penetration: no 2
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 2
Uniforms: no 1
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes no
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no 1
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 1-5
Video (watching others): no 0
Video (recordings of you): not yet, working on it 1-4*
Water torture: no 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 0
Whipping: no 2,
Wooden paddles: yes 3,
Wrestling: no 2