After being with my wife for some time now, we have come to the conclusion that she is not a sub, but a switch. She loves training under me to be my Pet, but she also has Domme tenancies that she wishes to fulfill. She has found that she, in general, is submissive to men, but Dom to women.

I have told her that if she wish to find her own play toy that she could, as long as she remand my Pet and i got final approval of her new toy. But after i gave approval i would not engage with her toy, as in, i could not order her to order her toy to serve me, kind of thing.

I was wondering if anyone else happens to be in the same situation, and if you would share your experiences and suggestions.