
Originally Posted by
IDCrewDawg
I don't generally use something I like for fun as punishment. Can be confusing for the submissive when you incorporate deep mental exchange of power.
In other words, it leaves the sub confused as to why your doing it from time to time if you don't explain the purpose each time, and I use little talk during play. I feel it enhances some of the non-verbal nuances.
If I use the same form of punishment each time, then when I begin the activity the submissive understands it is punishment, and post punishment during the emotional reassurance that everything is done, and the transgression is paid for I don't have to explain that it was or wasn't punishment. I feel it allows the submissive to process the experience better, and put behind them the feeling of disappointment they think I have in them.