I am brand new to BDSM, have been reading and learning, and tried some self-bondage. Would like to take the next step and meet someone with like interests but live in a small town where everyone knows everyone. And this lifestyle is looked down upon with great distaste. Live in the northwest largest cities are Salt Lake, Utah and Boise Idaho. When I have looked at a few profiles the BDSM seems extreme, not ready for that yet, any advice on how to go about meeting someone or learning what to do next?
Tend to be sub but would also switch.