My master and I have a very busy life with kids, school and work. We have lived together for roughly 3 years and married just shy of one year. I'm feeling very frustrated with the BDSM portion of our relationship, I went to the trouble of finding a basic contract and editing it to suit our life style before our wedding and asked him to review it and edit it so that we could have a contract to represent the BDSM portion of our relationship. He hasn't taken the time to read or edit it 8 months after the wedding. Also it feels like the only time he brings up BDSM is during sex or when he doesn't want to do a reasonable share of the chores with the kids or house work that we had already discussed and agreed on. I'm really frustrated I want a more consistent home. I have tried asking nicely and behaving well but it doesn't seem to help. How should I handle this?