I am BDSM curious and I am wanting to know how does a person know whether they tend to be a Dom or a sub? Is there a difference between a sub and a slave? What does it mean to be "owned" by someone, and why would anybody go along with being "owned"? As you can see I am new to all this. I asked a woman out awhile back and she told me that she couldn't go out, but that she would like to but she was already "owned" by someone. I'm curious as to what this means. I'm also wondering if there is a lot of brutality and pain involved in the lifestyle or if there is a point where a Dom knows to stop before it goes "too far"?