I'm a big fan of humiliation. I know it's not for everyone. I consider humiliation the emotional equivalent of a beating. It can be hard or soft, long or short, with any number of implements. Much like a beating the value (for me) comes from my exercise of power and control over my partner. It's not that I want my partner to be in pain so much as I enjoy knowing I can hurt her if and when I choose.

I also very much enjoy exploring the status gap between me and my partner. Humiliation and worship both accomplish this. Humiliation pushes her lower, while worship lifts me higher. Both result in a greater status gap, which in turn heightens my feelings about and experience of the situation. She can lift me up high while I am pushing her down in the mud, and we can both feel exalted and dizzy.