Hey :
Sounds like you both are a little confused on your parts but it sounds like you both are headed in the right direction
I am unclear as to how you want this do want vanilla realationship or Bdsm it sounds like both so you both will have
to figure out the time and place for these to exchange neither of you are mind readers i suppose so one of you will
have to step up and take charge and decide when these will work . PS : dont worry bout the spelling