Im new to this whole scene..I am married to my wife for almost a year now and we have been together for almost 4 years...she is very very vanilla and our sex life suffers for it (I know we've all heard of lesbian bed death)...but I used to be in a relationship that had many bdsm aspects and I'm looking for ways to reintroduce that back into my life without necessarily physically cheating on my wife... I have no idea where to go or what steps to take bc talking to her about this issue gets me laughed at so any advice would be welcomed!