i enjoy when my husband wraps his hands around my throat; he only does this on occasion so it is all the more exciting..

i can feel that he focuses his grasp on the two arteries in my neck, just pressing and holding enough to constrict the flow and i get a little light headed sometimes.. sometimes, he uses his forearm across my neck and makes it difficult for me to use my vocal chords (moaning, etc..).. it is not so much raw pressure as a grasping.. spreading the surface area out reduces any potential for pain..

besides, if you are worried about crushing someone's windpipe, you are doing it way too hard.. you are not actually supposed to hurt the person.. it is just robbing and controlling a few moments of breath, or constricting the blood flow.. the power lies in the hands that could do all of those things, but instead are gently reminding the sub how tenuous a grasp on his/her own life he/she really has..

or that's what get's me off in that realm, anyway..

my $0.02..