I want an intelligent lass who if she sees I am about to do something stupid (Hey- *I* am human, too!), will respectfully tell me so, and save me from making a Complete fool of myself. When I own a lass, I want her to use brains as well as body in my service; a lass who never disagreed, I think, could be defined as a 'doormat'. And where is the challenge, or the sport, in 'dominating' a doormat? The key IS 'respect'. If the respect is there, then disagreements aren't a problem. but as JD said- if there is no outlet to express disagreements, it simply fosters resentments. And resentments, I have found fester and make what Was a minor problem into a major issue before they get resolved- if they ever do. I think the fellow who told you that had been reading too many Gor books.