I concur with misty and MistyBlue both. For people older than about 19, being on camera feels momentous and risky. I can understand why a dom might not want to take that risk (doms - mostly - are human, too and subject to self-doubt), I can't understand why a dom who subject his sub to a risk he wouldn't face himself. That's damned poor leadership.

Would be curious to hear whether M_K ever resolved the issue.